"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Texting in 2013

killacam757

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What do you guys believe is the most successful approach to texting women in 2013? In my experience, most women prefer texting to phone calls. My downfall with women has been texting way to much, makes me seem too available even though my schedule is rather busy. I'm attempting to rid myself of these AFC qualities one by one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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playa99

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Best thing to do is to do what YOU want. Putting women at the center based on what they want makes you desperate to begin with.
 

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Well you identified one thing that is important: do not text too much.

I usually only use texting to set up dates. Not sure how old you are (I'm 27) and the girls I'm dating are 21-28 range. I don't spend hours back and forth texting. Less is more.
 

VladPatton

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Just use it as a tool for setting up dates, that's all. Use caveman language even. As soon as a girl learns you're a texting fiend, she'll make it her no.1 method of communication. When you don't text every 30 seconds, she'll realize you're a face to face, or phone call kind of a guy.
 

killacam757

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Solid advice. I'm 22 by the way Uncharted. I like the fact that less is more, it adds to my mysterious side and I am indeed a face to face type guy.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

PlayHer Man

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The woman should always be doing the majority of the communication (texting, talking, emailing, Facebooking, Twittering, etc.)

As a MAN you use communication to accomplish a goal.. like setting up a date or planning something. So that's all I use it for. I really don't communicate much with women in general unless there is a goal behind it.
 
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