"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Texting Gone Wrong?

pokermaniac1122

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So I really like this girl, and things were going really well. She was with a guy about a month ago, then they broke up, now they are back together. So we were texting tonight, and it went like this.

Me: hey what're you doing
her: nothin hbu
me: same. bored. ahhhh
her: blahhhhh
me: lol. you going to any crazy parties this weekend
her: not sure
me:i wanna partay
her: really?
me: no i'm lying to you...hell yeah :D
her: haha oh myy
me: sorry if i'm too wild for you :)
her: haha nope
me: haha o rly? then why dont we party it up
her: cuz i didnt think you did lol
me: lol well now you know
(10minslater) me: so we should do something :)
her: like?
me: like go to a club or whatever you do, idc
(20minslater) me: you imagining how much fun we're going to have? lol
her: haha defiently
me: so what're we going to do :p
her: idk if i can do anything lol
me: aww why not party pooper
her: might be doing something with bf
me: boo
(10mins later): you ok? lol {note to readers: i'm add}
her: yes lol
me: welcome back :p i'm bored. you sure you wouldn't like to do something tonight?
(6 hrs later) me: hey
her: what do you want
me: i wanted to have a nice conversation with my friend, but she is obviously unavailable at the moment
her: your a tool
me:lol. you don't know me. i haven't had a girl in years. i just wanted to hang, i am terribly sorry for finding you as a cool person and wanting to get to know you
her: i got an idea why don't you go **** yourself
me: your really hurting my feelings, i'm sorry for anything i've done to offend you if someone told you something its probably not true. if you want to talk about this in a chill manner then we can do that but i dont wanna be yelled at idk what i did

the ****?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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galmorphus

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You were forcing the conversation way too much.
You sounded so desperate too hang out with her and it sounded like you were forcing it .
She probably got turned off badly and why would she want to hang with a guy who constantly tells her that he is bored?

Edit: Try to back off a little bit, wait and see if she initiates the conversation or replies back first.

"you don't know me. i haven't had a girl in years." Wtf did you say that for?

"her: ignore that sorry it was my bf
bingo bango bongo back in business" Uhh, so you're actually trying to get with her when she has a boyfriend?
 
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NorwegianDJ

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Skim my journal for some texting examples.
You're not giving her any value. Why should she hang out with you? It's not like you can appeal to her goodwill by making her feel sorry for you.
A girl will not take the lead, so don't force her to take the lead. YOU make the plans.
I also understand why she reacted why she did. If you put your self at a point with very little value, people will act that way towards you.
You also keep restarting the conversation when it's obviously over, you get the vibe that she just wants to end it. Finally, she has a bf. And drop the 'lol' and add some fun ;)
 

Analyzeit

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This forum isn't mean enough anymore, dude she doesn't like you, she likes her boyfriend not every girls a cheater (unfourtunate i know) anyway.

Next..

You werent being forceful just, your coming of forceful because shes not interested in you
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jack Wealthy

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unfortunate not every girls a cheater... no.

Everyones already said anything that should be. Except that she tells her boyfriend all this stuff, which is why he was pissed you were annoying her. Which you were, even is she likes you you being protected by her is depended on her feeling good enough to do so.
 
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