Bgarrido
Don Juan
Does someone have an article on how to game a girl via text in between seeing her?? If bot can someone explain it to an up an coming dj
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Texting game
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
She's always texting me first but I get carried away a lot and txt back too quickly or reply with like specific texts.. Do you have a limit on how long you txt a girl and what you txt about?
Vice
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Depends on the context. I've set the frame so that I don't have conversations over text, so girls just send me little comments about missing me and how I ripped their vagina the other night. That's your best bet; don't become the kind of guy that replaces texting with actual interaction.Bgarrido said:
So I don't text about anything in particular, because I avoid having conversations via text.
My rule is this: if the text is worth replying to, I will reply to it (example, she says "lets f*ck"). If it's something that will lead to a conversational thread, I cut it off, because I honestly have better things to do with my time than play with a little plastic phone.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
So if she texts you something will start a conversation you just don't reply?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Nutz
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The best time to text is when she's still with you.Bgarrido said:
1st text
Hey nickname
So random meeting you tonight/just now. Are you always this friendly to strangers?
This is a double bind, either you're special or she's a friendly person. Either way it gives you something to qualify her on and keep things going.
2nd text
Hey nickname
Reference to the last time you hung out or texted
Meat of text
Non sequitur or a question, ideally cute or fun
Zombie game: send the last bit above, the non sequitur, to everyone you don't remember once a month.
Texting shouldn't last long. After your 3rd or 4th text you should have established a date. From that point forward texting is just to set up logistics for the most part. Don't worry though if it takes 8-10 texts to get to this stage at first. You just don't want to become a text-buddy with lots of texting all the time and no real investment of having to meet up at some point. It's basically a digital friend-zone.
Also, if you're texting back and forth, to help prevent this digital friend-zone, you should just call. If she's texting you right back then she's got her phone in her hand and will probably answer.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
So r u saying don't txt her unless you want to get her to kick it with you?
Vice
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Pretty much. Use discretion though, sometimes it will be a good idea to reply, and sometimes it's even better to just CALL her.Bgarrido said:
Again, just call her if you want to hang out, text should be used for quick questions that aren't worth calling for, like an address or how many people are going somewhere.Bgarrido said:
Think of it like this: the less you text, the less of a chance you have of saying something retarded.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
Aight man I feel you thanks for the tips
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
That's an important tip. Unfortunately, most guys will ignore it.WorkingDJ said:
Knowing when to end the conversation is huge.
If I text something funny to a girl, and she texts a funny response...that is the end of the conversation.
Too many guys get into these 20-text, back-and-forth conversations with girls about nothing. Just walk away from the phone. Constant texting will NOT increase her attraction.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
Yeah I just have to quit making the same mistakes.. She's literally been texting me everyday for about a week so I want to maintain the position of control, should I show her interest over text or just call her?