Bgarrido
Don Juan
Does someone have an article on how to game a girl via text in between seeing her?? If bot can someone explain it to an up an coming dj
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Texting game
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
She's always texting me first but I get carried away a lot and txt back too quickly or reply with like specific texts.. Do you have a limit on how long you txt a girl and what you txt about?
Vice
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Depends on the context. I've set the frame so that I don't have conversations over text, so girls just send me little comments about missing me and how I ripped their vagina the other night. That's your best bet; don't become the kind of guy that replaces texting with actual interaction.Bgarrido said:
So I don't text about anything in particular, because I avoid having conversations via text.
My rule is this: if the text is worth replying to, I will reply to it (example, she says "lets f*ck"). If it's something that will lead to a conversational thread, I cut it off, because I honestly have better things to do with my time than play with a little plastic phone.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
So if she texts you something will start a conversation you just don't reply?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Nutz
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The best time to text is when she's still with you.Bgarrido said:
1st text
Hey nickname
So random meeting you tonight/just now. Are you always this friendly to strangers?
This is a double bind, either you're special or she's a friendly person. Either way it gives you something to qualify her on and keep things going.
2nd text
Hey nickname
Reference to the last time you hung out or texted
Meat of text
Non sequitur or a question, ideally cute or fun
Zombie game: send the last bit above, the non sequitur, to everyone you don't remember once a month.
Texting shouldn't last long. After your 3rd or 4th text you should have established a date. From that point forward texting is just to set up logistics for the most part. Don't worry though if it takes 8-10 texts to get to this stage at first. You just don't want to become a text-buddy with lots of texting all the time and no real investment of having to meet up at some point. It's basically a digital friend-zone.
Also, if you're texting back and forth, to help prevent this digital friend-zone, you should just call. If she's texting you right back then she's got her phone in her hand and will probably answer.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
So r u saying don't txt her unless you want to get her to kick it with you?
Vice
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Pretty much. Use discretion though, sometimes it will be a good idea to reply, and sometimes it's even better to just CALL her.Bgarrido said:
Again, just call her if you want to hang out, text should be used for quick questions that aren't worth calling for, like an address or how many people are going somewhere.Bgarrido said:
Think of it like this: the less you text, the less of a chance you have of saying something retarded.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
Aight man I feel you thanks for the tips
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
That's an important tip. Unfortunately, most guys will ignore it.WorkingDJ said:
Knowing when to end the conversation is huge.
If I text something funny to a girl, and she texts a funny response...that is the end of the conversation.
Too many guys get into these 20-text, back-and-forth conversations with girls about nothing. Just walk away from the phone. Constant texting will NOT increase her attraction.
Bgarrido
Don Juan
Yeah I just have to quit making the same mistakes.. She's literally been texting me everyday for about a week so I want to maintain the position of control, should I show her interest over text or just call her?