Believe it or not Dude, I totally think this is a Men's Lifestyle forum in the sense where guys play therapist and confess a lot of things they might not reveal in the real world. Where doing a service for the common good in my opinion, hence the purpose of sites like this. As far as getting women are concerned, in my humble opinion, the whole concept is like one big oxymoron. In order to truly succeed you can't be needy, you gotta take breaks -find yourself and come back to your hobbies and purpose if you're having a dryspell or losing streak, you gotta have a sense of balance in your life for quality relationships to happen pretty much and you can't live your life trying to get women's validation. Let God or some higher creative force be your source of validation, not women. Lol, if you're cold approaching, always be in the spirit of giving and giving off positive emotions for her to cherish.