Texting back and forth with Cute Latina secretary, how can I spicen this convo?

[Travel memoir21]

Just had a chat with her tonight, the topic of sports, coffee runs and her job arised. What would you say and reply to spicen this conversation? Just wondering. I’d like to take her out on a few dates for fun, if I can pull that off, I’d be one content man.

 

[Divorced w 3]

First thing j noticed you’re not matching her flow. My dad doesn’t really like sports is, something short back - like okay you also?

secondly why are you even speaking about her father. I would have made a crack about daddy issues asap lol

third you say she’s up early it says 722pm

she’s short = you’re short

I appreciate you trying to get blood out of a stone but she’s not returning your energy

I would let her give you another closed end sentence and hit her with some silence. See what happens

 

[Travel memoir21]

Lol Im still here in South East Asia man, hopefully I’ll get back to the states mid October, thanks for the advise

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Ask her out for a drink. This is not rocket science. But you don't because you fear her saying no and not talking with you anymore.

You cannot win with women without being willing to risk it all, and then becoming immune to the outcome.

 

[Clockwerk50]

From her lack of questions and the dry responses, it seems she may not be interested in you, may not want a romantic relationship unless the right opportunity arises, she may have a boyfriend, or simply wants to socialize and have friends.

The text conversation also makes it seem like you’re focused only on yourself instead of her. Like I said before, you need to have an outward gaze and figure out what people need and enjoy. For example, she says, “I don’t drink coffee lol,” and you respond with, “Do you get along with everyone?” Why would you say that? I get that this is a priority for you, but it comes across as random, disconnected and awkward. Your frame right now is basically, “What do I need to do for her to go out with me?”, which is the wrong mindset to have.

The advise has always been the same: ask her out quickly unless you want to become a pen pal and move on. Also, you might have an easier time opening her up, and it would likely take less effort to sleep with her, if your SMV were higher than hers.

 

[SW15]

Ask her out for a drink.

This is the best thing to do in conversations on apps.

you don't because you fear her saying no and not talking with you anymore.

I don't understand why guys who would apps and social media platforms fear that. It's not like they've ever met this women in person. These women are just abstract concepts. I think this is scarcity mentality messing with men's mentalities.

It's a little bit more understandable with in-person stranger approaches but even those women are nothing.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is the best thing to do in conversations on apps.



I don't understand why guys who would apps and social media platforms fear that. It's not like they've ever met this women in person. These women are just abstract concepts. I think this is scarcity mentality messing with men's mentalities.

It's a little bit more understandable with in-person stranger approaches but even those women are nothing.

Because many men want to have relationships in their mind because they fear being rejected in person.

Some attention from women, no matter what form it is in, is better than none they think.

 

[Travel memoir21]

lol Ya know what? Im just gonna take my time with this girl and invite her to a bbq with my Dude friends and buddies. She’s cute and I befriend her in real life, I may still have a shot at her but most of all access to her other cute female friends and social circle for that matter.

 

[MatureDJ]

I never get OLD convos with chicks this nice. Again, it's your extra 11" that makes all the difference.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

lol Ya know what? Im just gonna take my time with this girl and invite her to a bbq with my Dude friends and buddies. She’s cute and I befriend her in real life, I may still have a shot at her but most of all access to her other cute female friends and social circle for that matter.

While you are taking your time another guy will be going on 3 dates with her and then fvcking her senseless on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd.

This is the scared play. Women don't respect scared men, they respect men who don't care about the outcomes and go for what they want.

If she goes, she 100% will be looking to fvck one of your buddies, not you.

 

[Travel memoir21]

While you are taking your time another guy will be going on 3 dates with her and then fvcking her senseless on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd.

This is the scared play. Women don't respect scared men, they respect men who don't care about the outcomes and go for what they want.

If she goes, she 100% will be looking to fvck one of your buddies, not you.

It's this type of Scarcity mindset and pvssy worshipping why there's a bunch sissified Dudes and lack of Brotherhood in Society. I'm close with all my male friends and this seems to be a quality woman. If she happens to like one of my dude friends, then let it be so, I have contributed to someone's happiness correct? Then I did my job and hopefully I can get invited to a wedding lol. I cherish my male friendships more than pvssy chasing and validation bro, it's a good mindset to have. Follow the Bro Code mindset brother. Besides I've been seeing plenty of girls here in South East Asia and also have some female platonic friends. Just out here having a good time, no need to get oneitis. But yes, I'm definitely gonna ask her out sometime and give it a shot when I come back to the states, take her out dancing, or to the park or something if she says yes. I don't rely on women for happiness, I have a lot of male friends ( mostly Latinos) who I go on friendship dates as well for a balanced social life, so that pretty much keeps me active and well rounded. So yeah, Good stuff.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Just had a chat with her tonight, the topic of sports, coffee runs and her job arised. What would you say and reply to spicen this conversation? Just wondering. I’d like to take her out on a few dates for fun, if I can pull that off, I’d be one content man.


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Respond to "My dad doesn't like sports" with words such as:

-"Luckily, my mission isn't to bed him"

-"Not so: Each time he stole your bikini top at the pool, then played keep-away with it, he was engaging in a sport. Not to mention getting an eyeful of the twins his own seed produced"

-"You're very fortunate. My dad was an ardent rifleman... Me and my brother are the lone survivors of the night Pops dropped his entire family in The Redwoods, then ordered us all to start running. Mum and my little sister definitely didn't wake up that morning thinking: "Before dawn tomorrow, we'll both have a hell of a lot more holes in us than the 3 we entered the world with. And no pulse to go along with them"

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It's this type of Scarcity mindset and pvssy worshipping why there's a bunch sissified Dudes and lack of Brotherhood in Society. I'm close with all my male friends and this seems to be a quality woman. If she happens to like one of my dude friends, then let it be so, I have contributed to someone's happiness correct? Then I did my job and hopefully I can get invited to a wedding lol. I cherish my male friendships more than pvssy chasing and validation bro, it's a good mindset to have. Follow the Bro Code mindset brother. Besides I've been seeing plenty of girls here in South East Asia and also have some female platonic friends. Just out here having a good time, no need to get oneitis. But yes, I'm definitely gonna ask her out sometime and give it a shot when I come back to the states, take her out dancing, or to the park or something if she says yes. I don't rely on women for happiness, I have a lot of male friends ( mostly Latinos) who I go on friendship dates as well for a balanced social life, so that pretty much keeps me active and well rounded. So yeah, Good stuff.

If your goal is to become the gay friend she wants to go shopping with, you are well on your way.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I never get OLD convos with chicks this nice

Yeah, folks typically respond less than kindly to folks who have a Woe-Is-Me disposition

 

[Bigpapa]

Just had a chat with her tonight, the topic of sports, coffee runs and her job arised. What would you say and reply to spicen this conversation? Just wondering. I’d like to take her out on a few dates for fun, if I can pull that off, I’d be one content man.


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you are doing all the work and she is not compliant

it also feels like an interrogation from her end

I think she is somehow interested, but you are not building any natural flow with her

you should focus on building a bit of rapport with her like “ wow- I do not think i could have done what you are doing. I think your job requires to be super diligent and also very flexible. You are like this in every aspects of your life? “

look man, your text game is quite bad, but the good thing is that this can be fixed with a lot of work

 

[Travel memoir21]

 

[Travel memoir21]

lol I tried to be playful this time…Western Women in a nutshell you gotta go through this crap. My laidback approach works fine with the traditional women I run into in Tinder out here.

 

[sangheilios]

That woman looks like a pain to deal with honestly, I wouldn't worry too much if things don't line up for you.

 

[The Duke]

@Travel memoir21

State this:

Its a lot more fun to converse in person, let's grab some ice cream and enjoy a walk in the park sometime. You can even bring your dog as long as it doesn't pee on my leg! Whats your number?

Your text convo isn't doing you any favors. You don't ask women what they want. They all suck at making decisions. They want you to show them who you are. You need to develop the conversation. Big a topic and expand on it. You pick a new topic every time you say something. You can't get any synergy going the way you are doing it.

I don't think "spicy" is even in your wheelhouse. Work on the basics first.

And BackInThe Game is spot on. Guys like me and him would have this "QUALITY" girl showing her private bits in no time. They all do not so quality things with the right guys, yes even the QUALITY ones. It has nothing to do with what you mentioned. If you understood women better you wouldn't say what you do.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Lol, Im just being myself at this point, I intend to build this roommate, bunk mate type of online friendship with her until I get back to Texas. Then I’ll ask her out for fun. Do I have oneitis? Absolutely not, Im a highly spiritual dude and get my high elsewhere, I love God and I love nature and taking walks in the beach and park man lol.