Guru, I think part of my issue is that I am not used to operating in a world where women have so many options. My ex and I were married right out of school where we were in a bubble of sorts, so this dynamic where women have endless options across miles and miles and where the main form of communication is either messaging on a computer or texting like they do now is something I will have to get used to. I do think I do pretty well once I am on dates 1 on 1. My struggle is generally the pre-date phase -- garnering interest and building rapport. That balance between being too available yet being present so they don't forget you is where I need work.
Yes hot women have many options, many options of guys they are not interested in ("orbiters"), but few options with men they are truly interested in. Don't be their orbiter is the greater message here by welcoming only interested women into your sphere.
Don’t contrive reasons to chase them when you are among their lowest priority.
The implicit reasoning in your quote is that women are the “prize,” and YOU are the lucky one to get a chance to win her. Is this the frame you wish to operate in, a pity, "I have nothing else to do" date for her?
DJs operate differently by investing their time and attention (T & A) smartly.
Most women are stifled with orbiters because they can only choose among men who approach them. Diametrically, DJs can approach women and can choose among women they are actually interested to meet. Your job is to deprive uninterested women of your T & A--and--give the
gift of your T &A to women who
consistently show high interest.
The language of (most) women is covert. Instead of overtly telling you, “Hey, you are my last option for tonight so I'm texting you. I have absolutely no plans tonight so I can meet you but only tonight just to kill time,” she asks you to meet, and when you counter-offer, she disappears because all other nights she has plans with men who she is interested in. Her silence to your counteroffer demonstrates this message. This is the cue you need to act upon.
The great ideal of being a Don Juan, is now YOU do the choosing.