"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Text Q: aloof or escalate after soft-NC?

TheCWord

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I wrote in another thread recently that a former oneitis of mine has been blowing up my phone. This trend has continued. The long and short of it is that I disconnected around Xmas time after I acted a little beta and she was acting a little flaky. I went ghost and became a different person physically (gym) and mentally (thanks, SoSuave).

So now we're here. I never initiate texts and, when I do, I keep things pretty brief. I try to use texts only to make plans and her and I live in different States at the moment so that's a no-go for another month. I'm pretty busy these days so I'll often take a while to respond. Now she'll double-text if I take too long. I'm pretty neutral in my texts so she has no idea what I think of her at the moment. I have to admit, it's pretty fun to see the dynamic turned on its head.

My question is if I should just stay the course or throw a bit of sexuality in these texts? Clearly she's enjoying having to chase me and part of me is thinking if it ain't broke, don't fix it. I think part of the fun for her is constantly guessing if I still like her or not, and if I start escalating via text that may give her an answer and then the game's not fun anymore.

FYI, a relationship isn't the end game here. I wouldn't rule it out down the line if things were working out, but for now I kinda just like the idea of banging a girl who was once famously hot and cold with me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JoeMarron

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Why not escalate? You have nothing to lose since it seems you dont really care about her. I told you in another thread how effective sexting can be so now's your chance to test it out. You can escalate and still keep it in her mind that she's chasing as long as you continue to let her initiate and do the most texting. If by chance she starts pulling back again crush her with perpetual nc.
 

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JoeMarron said:
Why not escalate? You have nothing to lose since it seems you dont really care about her. I told you in another thread how effective sexting can be so now's your chance to test it out. You can escalate and still keep it in her mind that she's chasing as long as you continue to let her initiate and do the most texting. If by chance she starts pulling back again crush her with perpetual nc.
You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to JoeMarron again. :)
 
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