"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Text Q: aloof or escalate after soft-NC?

TheCWord

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I wrote in another thread recently that a former oneitis of mine has been blowing up my phone. This trend has continued. The long and short of it is that I disconnected around Xmas time after I acted a little beta and she was acting a little flaky. I went ghost and became a different person physically (gym) and mentally (thanks, SoSuave).

So now we're here. I never initiate texts and, when I do, I keep things pretty brief. I try to use texts only to make plans and her and I live in different States at the moment so that's a no-go for another month. I'm pretty busy these days so I'll often take a while to respond. Now she'll double-text if I take too long. I'm pretty neutral in my texts so she has no idea what I think of her at the moment. I have to admit, it's pretty fun to see the dynamic turned on its head.

My question is if I should just stay the course or throw a bit of sexuality in these texts? Clearly she's enjoying having to chase me and part of me is thinking if it ain't broke, don't fix it. I think part of the fun for her is constantly guessing if I still like her or not, and if I start escalating via text that may give her an answer and then the game's not fun anymore.

FYI, a relationship isn't the end game here. I wouldn't rule it out down the line if things were working out, but for now I kinda just like the idea of banging a girl who was once famously hot and cold with me.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why not escalate? You have nothing to lose since it seems you dont really care about her. I told you in another thread how effective sexting can be so now's your chance to test it out. You can escalate and still keep it in her mind that she's chasing as long as you continue to let her initiate and do the most texting. If by chance she starts pulling back again crush her with perpetual nc.
 

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JoeMarron said:
Why not escalate? You have nothing to lose since it seems you dont really care about her. I told you in another thread how effective sexting can be so now's your chance to test it out. You can escalate and still keep it in her mind that she's chasing as long as you continue to let her initiate and do the most texting. If by chance she starts pulling back again crush her with perpetual nc.
You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to JoeMarron again. :)
 
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