text messaging

[B-Real]

I was curious as to when it is ok, if it ever is ok, to text message a girl whom recently gave you her number.

I got a girl's number the other day and I was wondering if it would be ok to text message her since she works a lot and I don't know her work schedule.

I suppose I could call her and leave her a message, but I would think that she would respond better with a text message since she can't talk on the phone when she is at work. Any suggestions??

 

[The Shocker]

Personally, I think it's ok to text just to talk and stuff, but if you're asking her out, you better be calling.

 

[B-Real]

Yeah I was just gonna text her to make rapport ya know. I mean I'll call her once I can figure out when she works.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Personally I say that having entire conversations via text is childish. Actually it's kinda stupid since you're probably using a phone. Is this why young people typically have really bad conversation skills; because all they do is used abbreviations when texting?

Here's something to consider; do you believe that you'll do that well in attempting to gain rapport through texting? Do you think that you're the only guy she's given her number two? And guess what these other AFCs are doing with her number? You got it, texting her.

So why not be a man and get rapport with her through conversation? Call her, plan to get together sometime. THAT'S how you go about gaining rapport and separate yourself from the other guys.

Texting is good for sending a quick flirty message to someone you're already dating. Again, not an entire conversation just a line or two without any expectation of getting a reply. Also, if she does reply, there's no reason to answer via text. If she needs to know something major, one of you should actually call.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

Better to call - chances are you'll get her voice mail and she'll call you back anyway.

 

[Vypros]

Yeah I was just gonna text her to make rapport ya know.

You build rapport on a DATE and not a moment before. The ONLY communication you should be having with her at this point is to set up the date. Nothing more, nothing less. If she wants to chat with you while you are setting up the date, you need to cut it as short as possible.

 

[WC2]

My mentality has always been call when possible, text when not. Simple and easy.