Text messaging vs calling to setup up a date ?

[Thechamp]

Text messaging vs calling to setup up a date ? Which is better ? And what you say if you text

 

[OlympicTim]

I find calling a lot easier because texting can take awhile but calling its done a lot faster and you can usually tell if shes bull****ting you by the tone of voice.

You're overthinking though. If you're texting just ask if she wants to do whatever you want and said time and day.

 

[skinnyguy]

Depends on interest level

If she's very high interest you can text and she will definitely respond with a "yes"

 

[Obsidian]

I like texting because it eliminates the problem of nerves. I think it works just about as well as calling. But if you're really good with phones, I guess you can call if you want.

 

[NSX-R]

I prefer calling ,thanks to my work i interact with a lot of peope and i feel better like this not to mention it 's easier to see the interest levels of the girl.
Texting is making me crazy,writing a text and waiting so long to get a reply i think is stupid .

I think depends on the character of each person, some want to act fast and organize things faster and others want to take their time .

 

[prison/con.net]

texting is for kids while in class, or overseas, where calls are expensive. Here, voicecalls are almost free, so texting is a stupid waste of time.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Text messaging vs calling to setup up a date ? Which is better ? And what you say if you text

You can be successful with either...I have noticed very little difference in results between the two...perhaps less flakiness if you talk to them but I rarely get flaked on to begin with.

It's simple send a few BS texts then say something like "So what's your schedule like this week, I wanted to meet up for a drink" she will tell you what her schedule is then pick a date/time and then don't text her again once you set it up.

 

[Stugots26]

I prefer texting because it minimizes guesswork. Each person has a written transcript of your exchange, so if you set a date for a definite time and a definite place (the address, specifically) on a definite day, there's no need for you to confirm with her. She has it written down, and if she has an appropriate interest level, she will refer back to the details as she prepares for the date.

By text, it has to be a specific date, place, and time that you set, and that she confirms with a "Ok," "Sounds good," "See you there," etc. If she doesn't respond when you set a date, time, and location, your schedule is still free as far as I'm concerned. I've had that happen, and girls get in touch the day of or the day before to cancel and I'm like, "Ok." Or I'll say, "I never heard back so I made other plans, no prob."

The point is that it's in writing, and it's going to stare her in the face. Words in verbal phone conversation have a way of changing over time in memory, and when I'm trying to set my schedule I prefer we both know exactly what was said and agreed to.

 

[Peña]

No difference to either of them. She will go out if she is interested. You will get excuses if she is not. Calling is better to get a good confirmation to set the date.

I like texting because it eliminates the problem of nerves. I think it works just about as well as calling. But if you're really good with phones, I guess you can call if you want.

You should not have nerves calling a woman to set a date. How are you going to have a good date talking to her in person when you have nerves calling her to talk on a phone?

 

[In2theGame]

IMO, It really doesnt matter. If the girl likes you, She'll respond positively no matter how you reach out to her.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

If this conversation was taking place 7 years ago or so, I would definitely say call. In my early 20s, I would always call a girl and never text to set up a date.

Nowadays though, texting is so commonplace that sometimes I feel like you're inconveniencing the other person when you call. Girls are bashful and awkward anyway, and most of the time they'd be too nervous to answer the phone if you call. Even if they want to go out with you, they won't answer but they will follow it up with a text.

It is what it is, and you're not going to screw your chances up with her one way or the other.

Just know what you're doing though. Ask her a question with response value, not something open-ended.

Don't: Hey I was thinking we should do something this week if you're not too busy.

Do: What does your Tuesday look like? This bar opened up not far from where I live, want to come check it out after work?

 

[bigneil]

Let her do the calling. Otherwise stick to text.

 

[bigneil]

(Duplicate post that 1 extra minute of software engineering could have prevented).