In these modern days and times it seems that every girl loves to text message chat....but i find keeping a text message chat going is much harder than just a normal talk on the phone or in real life...so any tips to having a good text message conversation? or should you stay away from text messages completely?
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Text message conversations...
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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The bad thing about texting is that it kills a challenge in a relationship.
Think of it as an electronic leash.
If the girl knows what you're up to at all times - she's going to lose attraction. You have to play into the frame of being a man of social value and having a life outside of her. If you're not exclusive, than you're seeing other babes.
I avoid all texting contact in between dates, because if I gave in and sent messages back and forth it would make me look too available or needy.
Another thing is that you can't see body language or tonality to measure interest level in texting. With texting women can keep a record of what you said and it can be used later to decrease interest level. You want her to pursue you not use you as another one of her girlfriends.
I lost my last f-buddy, because I text too much with her and didn't talk enough on the phone or get her out for a date. As it turned out she had b/f all along - so that's why she flaked the dates, but chatted away on text or phone for her attention - low self esteem needs.
So.. just be wary about texting, same goes with myspacing and MSN/AIM -- make them think you're on a hot date with someone else or that planning some big project or business move in your life.
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Think of it as an electronic leash.
If the girl knows what you're up to at all times - she's going to lose attraction. You have to play into the frame of being a man of social value and having a life outside of her. If you're not exclusive, than you're seeing other babes.
I avoid all texting contact in between dates, because if I gave in and sent messages back and forth it would make me look too available or needy.
Another thing is that you can't see body language or tonality to measure interest level in texting. With texting women can keep a record of what you said and it can be used later to decrease interest level. You want her to pursue you not use you as another one of her girlfriends.
I lost my last f-buddy, because I text too much with her and didn't talk enough on the phone or get her out for a date. As it turned out she had b/f all along - so that's why she flaked the dates, but chatted away on text or phone for her attention - low self esteem needs.
So.. just be wary about texting, same goes with myspacing and MSN/AIM -- make them think you're on a hot date with someone else or that planning some big project or business move in your life.
You're James Bond, seldomly seen and on missions!
Dpac said:
I agree all girls seem to love to text. However, i think its probably easier to keep a text chat going. Just remember to keep it like and use C&F, take your time to make a good response instead of rushing out a bad one. Oh and i always just make sure she gets the last text in, its just my thing i dunno why.