"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Text: "I have something on my mind today"

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Uh-oh, lol.

We had a real good night last Saturday, made out in car for first time while dropping her home. Had a few good texts since then.

Text this morning:
"I HAVE SOMETHING ON MY MIND TODAY. I will slowly try to share the good thoughts with you through the day, and ask that you would please consider my thoughts and tell what you think, ok?"

WTF? Would anyone like to take a stab, or is it too abstract to even attempt?

At any rate, I'll let you all know what it turns out to be.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I hate when they do that.

When a guy has a thought, it's: "Here's my thought."

When a girl has a thought, it's: "I have a thought. But I'm too afraid to express it directly. So I'm just going to make a little game out of it and tell you that I have a thought, and leave you to think about it all day."
 

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it could be anything dude!

play it out, keep an open mind, and report back to us.
 

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Atom Smasher said:
Uh-oh, lol.

We had a real good night last Saturday, made out in car for first time while dropping her home. Had a few good texts since then.

Text this morning:
"I HAVE SOMETHING ON MY MIND TODAY. I will slowly try to share the good thoughts with you through the day, and ask that you would please consider my thoughts and tell what you think, ok?"

WTF? Would anyone like to take a stab, or is it too abstract to even attempt?

At any rate, I'll let you all know what it turns out to be.
my guess is a series of increasingly erotic texts, slowly but surely turning you on till you drive round there and smash into her
 

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I'm going to train her out of this crap, that's for sure.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Atom Smasher said:
Uh-oh, lol.

We had a real good night last Saturday, made out in car for first time while dropping her home. Had a few good texts since then.

Text this morning:
"I HAVE SOMETHING ON MY MIND TODAY. I will slowly try to share the good thoughts with you through the day, and ask that you would please consider my thoughts and tell what you think, ok?"

WTF? Would anyone like to take a stab, or is it too abstract to even attempt?

At any rate, I'll let you all know what it turns out to be.
She's flaking, she's flaaaaaaaaaaaaaaakkkkkkkkkkiiiiiiiiiiiiiinggggggggggg

lol

In my past experience, anytime a women text you that it's never a great, and usually the next line is "I think your nice guy but right now blah blah blah"

well you get the gist of it
 

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Solomon said:
She's flaking, she's flaaaaaaaaaaaaaaakkkkkkkkkkiiiiiiiiiiiiiinggggggggggg

lol

In my past experience, anytime a women text you that it's never a great, and usually the next line is "I think your nice guy but right now blah blah blah"

well you get the gist of it
In my experience, anytime a woman says something like this, it's her asking to be more exclusive with me.

It could be anything. He'll find out.
 

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Swear to God, this is better than Oprah!
 

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Myrrdin said:
Swear to God, this is better than Oprah!
no it isnt. we dont get any cool prizes at the end of the show.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LOL, Atom Smasher likes to give you more for your entertainment dollar.

Free car for everybody!

She says there's no problem and that it's something "good", but we all know that one woman's "good" is another man's "not-so-good". Whatevs. Should be interesting but I am going to train her out of this because I don't like it. It could be something mundane and not so big, too. We'll see.

I don't feel very comfortable when a woman I'm with has been having "thoughts". :rolleyes:

She could be copying what I did last Saturday (in her own female way). I took her on a surprise outing. I find that when a girl likes me she usually starts copying me a lot. This might be her trying to add some "mystery" which is what I provided her on Saturday.

I'll let you guys know what happens.
 

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Hey as long as you didn't get it on, and there's no chance of her being knocked up, it's just conversation.

That's the only concern I would have with an ambiguous text: "Oh fvck she's pregnant."

In the absence of that possibility, you have no reason to care whatever she's getting at. It may have been genuine, or she might have been trying to make herself mysterious.

So did you ever get any follow-up?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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