"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Text game with difficult women

gravityeyelids

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how do you deal with women that are straight up curt and borderline rude? Technically this is a tinder convo, but still:

Me: You look like you could be fun ;)
Her: hahaha
me: I'm glad you're amused
Her: I am very.
Me: You think you're cool?
Her: yes

DONT CRITIQUE MY GAME. IM AWARE THAT IS CONVO IS NOT TOP NOTCH. I don't need a dozen people posting that "your opening line sux brah",etc. etc. I'm spamming a bunch of different lines to work on my text game and see what works. im just using this convo as an example. Sorry, just a pet peeve of mine on this site when people do that sh!t.

My question is....the fact that she's responding is a good sign. However its lose lose because she's giving me very quick lame answers and it looks like im trying to win her attention (which i am). If i call her out on it, i lose. If i write a longish message trying to entertain her, i lose. If i just ignore her, shes not going to message me back obv, i lose. If i just send a short response like "Lol", i lose because she thinks im just another loser who makes boring conversastion. I can tell this girl is a b!tch, but still.

Any advice for dealing with difficult chicks like this? I know an obviously response would be "dont deal with a low quality chick". But i want to have it in my "texting arsenal" regardless.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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goldengoose

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Responding doesn't mean anything. I've seen a lot of chicks on other sites talk about how they use online dating for fun just to pass the time at work or when they are bored. They laugh at the guys hitting them up and call them losers. If you're not geting back replies of interest you're not going to get laid. Her 1 and 3 word replies isn't going to get you very far.
 

Amilz

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You don't want to be critiqued at all so I don't know what to tell you. I will say that texting can be impersonal and misinterpreted. It's really hard to read a person with just a few texts. She might think you are interested only in an intimate way with that first line.
 

narcissist

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Make fun of her. She will try to validate herself. Thus you get longer messages to work with.

Probably wont get the vag though. But its better then "lol" or "aha" messages



Goldengoose is right. She obviously isn't interested. Just one of those girls whose bored passing time. So at the end of the day, nexting makes more sense.
 
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