"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ok i spoke to this HB last week on the phone from Facebook, it went really well she even called me at 1.30am on friday night?? i didn't answer but this was 2 days after i first spoke to her so i guess i must have done something right if she just called to talk.

anyway we were suppose to meet today after work and i confirmed it with her last night, she said yes.

then surprise surprise she flakes on me at lunch today saying that her work is offering free beauty treatments and she only found out last min and is sorry and could we reschedule our coffee.

i tried to be smart cos i already told her earlier i was going to the gym nearby anyway so we could meet after otherwise make it tomorrow cos i was busy friday. (i had to choose either tomorrow or friday as the 1 day to be busy)

anyway i made the mistake of choosing tomorrow cos she has a prior engagement (but if i chose friday she might be out with her work lot)

she replies back with that she didn't want to make plans today cos she didn't know what time she'd finish and she has prior engagement tomorrow so said 'next week?'

because it's only wednesday would it be better to have just responded with 'yeah' and left it till the weekend to follow up?

cos i feel i've left my balls hanging cos i text back saying 'yeah im quite busy next week tho, tuesdays no good for me but i can do monday after work, how's then?'

i'm not expecting a reply now.. and i feel in the run of the texting i seem too keen.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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pete101 said:
Ok i spoke to this HB last week on the phone from Facebook, it went really well she even called me at 1.30am on friday night?? i didn't answer but this was 2 days after i first spoke to her so i guess i must have done something right if she just called to talk.

anyway we were suppose to meet today after work and i confirmed it with her last night, she said yes.

then surprise surprise she flakes on me at lunch today saying that her work is offering free beauty treatments and she only found out last min and is sorry and could we reschedule our coffee.

i tried to be smart cos i already told her earlier i was going to the gym nearby anyway so we could meet after otherwise make it tomorrow cos i was busy friday. (i had to choose either tomorrow or friday as the 1 day to be busy)

anyway i made the mistake of choosing tomorrow cos she has a prior engagement (but if i chose friday she might be out with her work lot)

she replies back with that she didn't want to make plans today cos she didn't know what time she'd finish and she has prior engagement tomorrow so said 'next week?'

because it's only wednesday would it be better to have just responded with 'yeah' and left it till the weekend to follow up?

cos i feel i've left my balls hanging cos i text back saying 'yeah im quite busy next week tho, tuesdays no good for me but i can do monday after work, how's then?'

i'm not expecting a reply now.. and i feel in the run of the texting i seem too keen.
it seems all u do here is post about all these various flakes with different girls off facebook, u should reread your other threads that uve started theres pretty sound advice there...
 

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i did but each situation is different so i dont know what/how to do each time?
 
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