You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When you go ghost, you log onto your cell phone provider's website and type her phone number into the blocked numbers list. I know for a fact that Verizon has this, and I'm sure most others do too.tryst type said:What do you guys generally do when you go ghost and she contacts you again? This hasn't happened with this particular girl but in the past it has when I go no contact and I sense they're just looking to get a response to regain control. Do you just never respond?
Yep^^^^Buddha_Mind said:What a condescending cvnt.
"you'll find your match"...
Dude delete this number go NC this one is vile and evil
tryst type said:"I think you are wonderfully handsome and fun and while we both aspire for similar things, I think we're in very different chapters of our lives. My personality is too serious for yours. I have fun when appropriate while maintaining seriousness for life goals. I wouldn't mind maintaining a friendship with you"
My response: "K"
Her: "you'll find your match"
Me: "idk I might be too fun for girls![]()
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She's pretty much alluring to the fact that my current job is "whatever" as I'm a laborer at a local warehouse. Oh girlsss so predictable at times.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That is some fvcked up sh1t. Sort of reminds me of another study someone told me about: They took a professional violinist (who had sold out a major auditorium the night before) and put him on the street (playing the same songs) and only a handful of people even stopped to listen or give him change (people paid $xx+ for tickets the night before).Nutz said:In the Science of Sex Appeal show they dabbled with this by taking pictures of the the men and circulating them on the sidewalk soliciting women for their opinion of the men's looks on a scale of 1 to 10. They did it a second time and also included fake jobs & incomes. The second time around the best looking guy who was then listed with a crappy job & income dropped several points, and the previously lowest rated man who they put down was an executive making over $300,000 was then viewed as the hottest of the bunch.
I'm in IT and it's the same exact thing. I suspect is the same for all the male-dominated fields. The women who want to be there are likely the high-testosterone types.Xenon said:You dodged a bullet. I am a scientist myself, and I would not date any of the women I associate with. They act more like some of the men I work with and, while some are physically attractive, make you want to gouge your eyes out.
I came back from a VAR conference, these Cisco women want to dominate the sh!t out of you.Nutz said:I'm in IT and it's the same exact thing. I suspect is the same for all the male-dominated fields. The women who want to be there are likely the high-testosterone types.