"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Tests men can carry out!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Example of what I do:
I will ask them what they do in there spare time and then branch off to if they go to lots of parties and act like I don't mind and see if they drink.. If i hear lots of parties and alcohol.. Only will use the girl no chance of LTR.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What do you do to qualify your women?d9930380 said:
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You mean play games?d9930380 said:
Distant Light
Master Don Juan
I suppose I don't have any specific ones because I don't know what kind of girl I'm looking for, just what I'm not looking for
I do remember using them in the past but they're very specific.
Ace_McGregor
Don Juan
He would play this game called "5 questions" where he'd ask five totally random questions to his guest.
Well I came up with five totally random questions of my own that I sometimes ask chicks I meet. I picked questions that reveal their personality and help me qualify them as a possible LTR or not. They think it is just a cute game - they have know idea they are telling me deep things about they peceive the world.
Example: I would ask, "What is your dream job?" , "If you could travel anywhere in the world for free, where would you go?" , "Would you rather live in the mountains or on the beach?" , "Where do you shop for clothes?" , "What is your favorite shot at a bar?"
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Don't laugh, that could be the very thing that's slowing you down. Only knowing what you don't like will keep you on the look out for those very things. If you have no idea what qualities you do like, how will you know if you come across a woman with those traits? Who's to say that you haven't already met one but you were so focused on her faults that you overlooked the good traits which may have outweighed the bad ones.d9930380 said:I suppose I don't have any specific ones because I don't know what kind of girl I'm looking for, just what I'm not looking for
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
THE_ADDMAN
Master Don Juan
if you're secure in who you are; you wont have any problem disagreeing with something she says, or sharing something you like that she doesnt like, or vice versa.
and if you believe you're the prize, and just try to have a conversation without any concious thought about tests (yours or hers), and always subtly convey that you hold yourself in very high regard; she'll automatically qualify herself to you.
From what I see around me there is a much higher percentage of woman who live exciting and adventurous lives compared with men, not only is this true, but also 70% of the guys only desire to be with the top 30% of the hottest girls, I don't think that the HB7-8-9-10's need any particular guy to make their lives better, they have many options if you think about it.Distant Light said:
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Whatever happened to 'Never listen to what a b!tch says, but what she does'?
I never ask qualifying question to b!tches, but rather put them in situations where they have to qualify trough their actions.
highschoolguy
Don Juan
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Cool can I be your boyfriend?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
1) Change plans at the last minute. Whatever she wants to do, tell her you'd rather do something else.
2) Flake. Call her (new girl) 20 minutes after you were supposed to show and say something came up. I usually tell her I'll make it up to her. Sometimes do, sometimes don't
3) Find out her opinion on something, give opposite viewpoint & then watch to see if she rationalizes or changes her opinion to match mine.
4) Flirt with other women. See if she gets uptight or stays cool.
Expect special treatment. See if she is willing to do things for you.
I pretty much use those. Not all with the same girl and not all in a short period of time.
The necessity to know what exactly your looking for in a chick.
Maybe once you figure that out... the elements of how to test for such qualities will just come to you naturally.
Example...
I like open-minded chicks. So I'll often tell a little story, a dream, or some wile abstract idea/perspective, and then ask her a question about how she feels about it. Anything to get a take on her. Naturally whatever response she gives to such a scenario is going to express how open her mind is to such "openess"... lol
Another good thing I like about chicks is generosity.
I like a generous chick. So simple things, as in... does she offer me sh!t. A drink, a ride, a call to go to a party, a massage, anything. I'll just be looking for this quality in her behaivor.
So back to the point... fig. out what you like and want in a girl, and I think many of the perfect "sh!t tests" will come to you naturally.
SuaveOn'