"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Testing... Testing 1 2 3

DangNammit

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I've read a bit about some of the tests men are subjected to...

I'm curious... What tests or questions do you have/use in order to further qualify a woman you may be considering exclusivity with?

This is one that stands out from the other 'plates' you have been spinning...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DangNammit said:
I've read a bit about some of the tests men are subjected to...

I'm curious... What tests or questions do you have/use in order to further qualify a woman you may be considering exclusivity with?

This is one that stands out from the other 'plates' you have been spinning...
good question..I ask about their previous relationships. Things like How they broke up,if she cheated ( I phrase it differently to throw them off), hows their relationship now. If she states the obvious then well, she gets her walkin papers.
 

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sodbuster said:
MOST times you don't need to ask. Since they never shut up, they'll TELL you as long as you listen.
Yes indeed. Very true. Women will tell you all that you need to know about their attitudes, about their past relationships and about how they treat men.
It will all be innocently wrapped in "I was the victim" statements, but the truth is in there if you listen.
 

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Great advice, listen - objectively.

Mentally replay past conversations. If you have been with her long enough to think about exclusivity, you should have spoken about everything that matters to you. If you haven't, it's too early or the relationship is too superficial. I like the replay option because I am more objective with a rerun than "live".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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