"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've read a bit about some of the tests men are subjected to...

I'm curious... What tests or questions do you have/use in order to further qualify a woman you may be considering exclusivity with?

This is one that stands out from the other 'plates' you have been spinning...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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DangNammit said:
I've read a bit about some of the tests men are subjected to...

I'm curious... What tests or questions do you have/use in order to further qualify a woman you may be considering exclusivity with?

This is one that stands out from the other 'plates' you have been spinning...
good question..I ask about their previous relationships. Things like How they broke up,if she cheated ( I phrase it differently to throw them off), hows their relationship now. If she states the obvious then well, she gets her walkin papers.
 

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sodbuster said:
MOST times you don't need to ask. Since they never shut up, they'll TELL you as long as you listen.
Yes indeed. Very true. Women will tell you all that you need to know about their attitudes, about their past relationships and about how they treat men.
It will all be innocently wrapped in "I was the victim" statements, but the truth is in there if you listen.
 

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Great advice, listen - objectively.

Mentally replay past conversations. If you have been with her long enough to think about exclusivity, you should have spoken about everything that matters to you. If you haven't, it's too early or the relationship is too superficial. I like the replay option because I am more objective with a rerun than "live".
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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