"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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DangNammit

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I've read a bit about some of the tests men are subjected to...

I'm curious... What tests or questions do you have/use in order to further qualify a woman you may be considering exclusivity with?

This is one that stands out from the other 'plates' you have been spinning...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DangNammit said:
I've read a bit about some of the tests men are subjected to...

I'm curious... What tests or questions do you have/use in order to further qualify a woman you may be considering exclusivity with?

This is one that stands out from the other 'plates' you have been spinning...
good question..I ask about their previous relationships. Things like How they broke up,if she cheated ( I phrase it differently to throw them off), hows their relationship now. If she states the obvious then well, she gets her walkin papers.
 

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sodbuster said:
MOST times you don't need to ask. Since they never shut up, they'll TELL you as long as you listen.
Yes indeed. Very true. Women will tell you all that you need to know about their attitudes, about their past relationships and about how they treat men.
It will all be innocently wrapped in "I was the victim" statements, but the truth is in there if you listen.
 

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Great advice, listen - objectively.

Mentally replay past conversations. If you have been with her long enough to think about exclusivity, you should have spoken about everything that matters to you. If you haven't, it's too early or the relationship is too superficial. I like the replay option because I am more objective with a rerun than "live".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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