"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Testing or low interest or what?

H

Heritic_101

New Member
Joined
Jun 23, 2009
Messages
8
Reaction score
1
I had a short 2.date the other day. Everything goes along very well. Joking, flirting, etc. By the end of the date she suddenly becomes serious and says that she is not in love with me. I admit I was confused by this. I just replied "yet", and moved on. My gut feeling is that this girl likes me. Was this a test?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

U

Unbridled_Phoenix

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 22, 2009
Messages
677
Reaction score
25
It could've been a test, or she may have encountered circumstances in your interaction that reminded her of some misgivings/bad juju with a previous man, and felt compelled to address your feelings up front.

Maybe she laughed and had some fun with an AFC who fell in love with her after a date and she felt some regret about LJBFing his a$$. I've sensed this with women before, if you're the first guy she's enjoying hanging out with after a bad LTR ending or something the like, they can suddenly get scared for *seemingly* no reason. Everyone compares women to cats, I think they're alot like horses too.

You were right to push through it and go on unaffected. I'm not saying don't bang her, but play it slow with this one. Life has taught me that's the way to go anyway. Assume she wants you as a FB, but doesn't want you to catch serious feelings and get all puppy dog on her. This happens more often than you'd think.

And if she's worried about you falling in love with her too fast, then for god's sake stay off that phone and NO TEXTING. See her in person as you see fit, but the phone is only for setting up face time. Guys blow it with the stupid text messages all the time.
 
S

squirrels

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 15, 2003
Messages
6,620
Reaction score
186
Age
47
Location
A universe...where heartbreak and sadness have bee
H

Heritic_101

New Member
Joined
Jun 23, 2009
Messages
8
Reaction score
1
Unbridled_Phoenix said:
Maybe she laughed and had some fun with an AFC who fell in love with her after a date and she felt some regret about LJBFing his a$$. I've sensed this with women before, if you're the first guy she's enjoying hanging out with after a bad LTR ending or something the like, they can suddenly get scared for *seemingly* no reason.
Click to expand...
I think you are on to something. All her guy friends confessed to love her after her last relationship ended, when she rejected them they all disappeared.
 
Z

Zunder

Banned
Joined
Jun 6, 2009
Messages
897
Reaction score
66
Heritic_101 said:
I had a short 2.date the other day. Everything goes along very well. Joking, flirting, etc. By the end of the date she suddenly becomes serious and says that she is not in love with me. I admit I was confused by this. I just replied "yet", and moved on. My gut feeling is that this girl likes me. Was this a test?
Click to expand...
A short 2.date? enlighten me what that means.

If this was only a first or second date and she is asking something fvcking weird like that.....I mean it is ridiculous "I am not in love with you" on a fvcking first date?! She sounds like a screwball.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

H

Heritic_101

New Member
Joined
Jun 23, 2009
Messages
8
Reaction score
1
Zunder said:
A short 2.date? enlighten me what that means.
Click to expand...
A short midweek lunch date.

Zunder said:
If this was only a first or second date and she is asking something fvcking weird like that.....I mean it is ridiculous "I am not in love with you" on a fvcking first date?! She sounds like a screwball.
Click to expand...
Yes it is weird, that is why I made this post. My first thought was that this was just some crazy test to see how I reacted. It is really no big deal. I'm just here to learn.
 
Z

Zunder

Banned
Joined
Jun 6, 2009
Messages
897
Reaction score
66
Heritic_101 said:
A short midweek lunch date.


Yes it is weird, that is why I made this post. My first thought was that this was just some crazy test to see how I reacted. It is really no big deal. I'm just here to learn.
Click to expand...
We are all learning.

I think you answer to her was quite good.
But I would have just looked at her quizically - and said "Are you alright?" "Did soemone put something in your drink"? "Because, ______, who says I want your love"? "All I want is for you to go up to the bar and buy the drinks.....it's your round"!!

LOL.

I still think that is one of the most fvcking weird things a woman has said.
 
J

jophil28

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 18, 2006
Messages
5,216
Reaction score
278
Location
Gold Coast. Aust.
Zunder said:
But I would have just looked at her quizically - and said "Are you alright?" "Did someone put something in your drink"? "Because, ______, who says I want your love"? "All I want is for you to go up to the bar and buy the drinks.....it's your round"!!

LOL.

I still think that is one of the most fvcking weird things a woman has said.
Click to expand...
That is how to deal with this nonsense...or just get up and walk away.

Maybe I am just getting tired or jaded, but woman who say bewildering things like that usually go on to create HUGE problems.
Surely we should be investing our time and energy in women who do NOT play head games, do NOT act poorly or confuse us, and do NOT say wacked out stuff which requires a new thread on MM for interpretation.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top