"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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**** testing male friends?

ERB

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Need some advice on weeding out **** friends. Most are obvious piss poor friends, slowly weeding them out. People suck nowadays, need to get out and find some better males to hang with. Fortunately most people I have in my circle I would not even loan my chainsaw to. (Inside joke about chainsaw).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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piranha45

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Consider the ones who ask a lot from you, and offer little.

No ****-testing necessary, just look at what's happened in the recent past.
 

Malcontent

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Yeah, you know who the bad ones are already. They show themselves.

I remember a quote from a movie, can't remember which movie though:

Guy 1: You know how to tell if you can trust someone?
Guy 2: (waits for answer)
Guy 1: Trust them.

Most people show themselves pretty quickly. Unless they are BPD or whatever.
 

EverSure75

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Yup...
I've been weeding out friends too. Not so much my male friends but the female friends i had. I no longer confide in females or rely on them for emotional support.

The best male friends I find are ones who are better than me in some aspect of my life that I'm trying to improve...or ones who've been thru similar drama as I have and have made it out ok.

Be on the lookout for jealousy too...it tends to show itself when people close to you notice that you're making steps to improve your life.
 

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Sat back and thought about the responses to my question. It is obvious who can stay and who needs to go. I was over thinking this question. Thanks.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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