"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Testing for Compliance

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Anything that is you doing something to trigger different than normal behavior in the girl is a "compliance test". If she does what you want, then the result is positive, and it means keep going.
Tell her to give you a hug. Take her hand. Drag her somewhere else. Put your hand briefly on her knee or leg or shoulder or arm or across her lower back and hip. Pet her. Tell her to do something. Pull her pigtails.

Verbally, it's just a matter of how polite she's being. If she's still giving you **** tests, you're still early in the attraction. If she's being very sweet and friendly then she's "compliant", and the attraction building stuff can be relaxed a bit, and you can move on to rapport and comfort building.

But, don't get caught up in all the specific stuff, like compliance tests. After you've gotten a little bit of practice with it, you can sort of forget about the specific techniques.

If you're always escalating, always being flirty and fun, always being bold and assertive, you'll internalize the right behaviors with practice.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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