"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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**** test? Yeah I think so.

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I came across a girl I went to HS with. I had a crush on her during my AFC days and obviously did nothing about. Sadly, it was at Myspace.com that I saw her profile. I really hate that site, but its good for old friends. Whatever.

Her profile wasnt all barbie dolled up with naked toons and Prada bags with stupid Ciara music videos. But rather how shes sarcastic, a *****, loves to have fun, etc. Female alpha.

So I messaged her saying shes ****y etc. She ate it up. We've been talking for a few days (it took her a while to figure out who I was, and even then she didnt remember me- talk about being outgoing in HS on my part). Anways today she said shes going lesbian because shes sick of guys, blah blah blah. This came out of NOWHERE. Although she is bi. I kept the talk BS, and she kept up with me.

I played it off. But I told her if she becomes one of those evil Lifetime girls who hates men I wouldnt talk to her. Next message had nothing to do with her "going" lesbo at all.

I know this is really sad for me to even be questioning this, but I think I can safely say test one passed. I guess the only reason I care is because I used to have a crush on her. I dont anymore, but shes still a cutey, and I want to !close it soon. Its just that when this crap happens online, you cant read body language.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I didn't write "****". It changed it.
 

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cool you can say ****?

hey you son of a ***** howd you beat the censor
 

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you know I actually like the censor. takes me back to the good old fashioned days when people were polite.
 

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More message continue, more playful questions. Whatever though, I cant get oneitis over this girl. Although I do feel like its some redemption.

I failed in HS to hook up, her she is 5 years later just sitting in my crosshairs.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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EDIT: LOL ok there was a post above this one but it got deleted.

Yeah I guess a tiny part of me still wants her. Shes not a pedestal though.

The thing is in high school, we knew of each other, but didn't actually know each other.

I really wish that I had ran across her in public that way I could better judge the situation and establish a comfort zone.
 

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Quit reporting everything.
 
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You know there were replies to this message, I cant help that they get deleted.
 
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