"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Test if im adopted.

navyseal2101

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I think im "adopted" and I know there are 13 mixups a day with giving ppl the wrong kids, I think I was a mixup, so how do I go about getting that checked?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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why do you think that?
 

Nighthawk

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I'm adopted. While it's very common for non-adopted children to imagine or even fantasize about being adopted, it is also common for people not to be told they were adopted, which is tantamount to child abuse in my book. Do you have any evidence you were adopted besides the statistics?

An obvious, though unreliable, test is familial similarity. Do you look markedly different to the rest of your (extended) family? Do you have different blood groups?

Adopted children often have abandonment issues, even if they aren't aware they were adopted. See Nancy Verrer's The Primal Wound for more insight. These may manifest in anger issues, depression, alienation, criminal tendencies, self-harm, substance abuse - though again lots of non-adopted people exhibit these behaviours also.

If you were adopted as part of a hospital mix-up then there is little outside of blood groups or dna testing that will prove anything. But if your parents are complicit, or have suspicions themselves, maybe talking to them will get you answers.

Feel free to PM me.
 

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Hey. You are what you are.


Ask your parents straight up. Was I adopted? Take their answer at face value, without reading the little signs.


Who cares if you were adopted? You are what you are! You love what you are. Adopted or not.
 

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No, they dont think IU was adopted. In a sense I think I was switched at the hospital b/c I in no way resemble either of them unlike my brother who I also look nothing like. Then I read it happens all the time and you would never know. I dont care if I am "adopted" or not, in fact it would make some things less awkward like "the talk" which was really awkward for me. I'd still love em either way, but i'd like to know who my real parents are if it's the case. So do I just go get a blood test or what? EDIT: Saw Nighthawks post, so is it free?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nighthawk

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In the UK your blood type should be on the your birth certificate (I think), or other medical records. Don't really know the US system, sorry. Also, you could be the same blood group and still be adopted.
 

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you probably look straight up just like some great great grandfather
 

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How do you make sure you get the right baby at the hospital?
 

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First step is to check your eye colour :
http://www.genetree.com/resource/eyeColorCalculator.php

Then a blood test and or a DNA test.

GeneTree Eye Color Inheritance Chart:

Conclusions based on this theory:

2 'light blue' eyed parents cannot have a 'blue' eyed (or darker eyed) child.
2 'blue' eyed parents can have a 'Blue-green' (or lighter) eyed child, but not hazel or anything darker.
2 'blue-green' eyed parents can have a 'Light brown' (or lighter) eyed child, but not brown or anything darker.
1 'Light brown' eyed parent and 1 'blue-green' eyed parent can have a child with any of the possible eye colors.
2 'dark brown or black' eyed parents can have a child with any of the possible eye colors (but it is unlikely they will have a light eyed child, such as light blue or blue).
 
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