"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Terrified to escalate

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Straight to the point - I'm scared to physically escalate with girls.

Sometime's I'll be making out with a girl, and she'll start grinding her hips against me, and I've gotten to where we're in our underwear. But for some reason I freeze up and can't finger her or go past.

It's really starting to wear on me. Many times I've been in the position to escalate, but something inside wont let me. Only if a girl starts escalating herself can I do anything past making out.

My goal is to become comfortable with fingering or performing cunnilingus to a girl, and be confident enough to ask her to give me a handjob or head.

Can anyone here help me? Thanks a lot.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's hard to say why I'm scared to.
Twice I've had my hand pulled away when I went down (guess this would be LMR)... so, maybe I'm scared to get rejected again.
Also, no girl that I HAVE fingered have ever told me that they liked it, or didn't for that matter... but I just don't even know if I'm doing it right. So that could be another reason why I'm scared.

Thanks for the quick reply man.
 
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Sam, don't cross post (post the same thread in two forums.) You have more replies in the "Discussion Forum" one, so this one is Closed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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