"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Straight to the point - I'm scared to physically escalate with girls.

Sometime's I'll be making out with a girl, and she'll start grinding her hips against me, and I've gotten to where we're in our underwear. But for some reason I freeze up and can't finger her or go past.

It's really starting to wear on me. Many times I've been in the position to escalate, but something inside wont let me. Only if a girl starts escalating herself can I do anything past making out.

My goal is to become comfortable with fingering or performing cunnilingus to a girl, and be confident enough to ask her to give me a handjob or head.

Can anyone here help me? Thanks a lot.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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It's hard to say why I'm scared to.
Twice I've had my hand pulled away when I went down (guess this would be LMR)... so, maybe I'm scared to get rejected again.
Also, no girl that I HAVE fingered have ever told me that they liked it, or didn't for that matter... but I just don't even know if I'm doing it right. So that could be another reason why I'm scared.

Thanks for the quick reply man.
 
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Sam, don't cross post (post the same thread in two forums.) You have more replies in the "Discussion Forum" one, so this one is Closed.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

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