"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TERRIBLE performance on a first date

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You could try, but I'd say there's a very low chance of success based on her behavior. It looks to me like she was deliberately making it impossible for you to escalate and now she's giving you the "busy" line. Most likely she's busy meeting other guys on Hinge. So I wouldn't make her a priority at all.

The thing is, if you do get her over again, you need to make a move and put her in a position where she absolutely has to sheeet or get off the pot. That way you'll be 100% certain of what her intentions are, rather than unsure, which is where women want to you to be if they want to manipulate you and use you for attention.

This is why texting and speaking on the phone are such a bad idea - she gets a bunch of attention, whilst you can't actually make a move and find out if she's even worth talking to at all. If she wants to come over, fine, but don't let her suck up a lot of your time talking about it.
Great advice man - thank you!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The ones that do this are the real attention junkies and essentially they have something seriously wrong with them.
I invited one out the other week, I must have gone quiet for a few days, she liked a picture of me, unliked it, then reliked 24 hours later when it had gone quiet, so she stood out as the most recent liker. In a hope i would DM her

Theyre NUTS
 

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I invited one out the other week, I must have gone quiet for a few days, she liked a picture of me, unliked it, then reliked 24 hours later when it had gone quiet, so she stood out as the most recent liker. In a hope i would DM her

Theyre NUTS
Jesus christ. hahaha what lengths won't they go to?
 

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I invited one out the other week, I must have gone quiet for a few days, she liked a picture of me, unliked it, then reliked 24 hours later when it had gone quiet, so she stood out as the most recent liker. In a hope i would DM her

Theyre NUTS
Yep. It's needs to be diagnosed as a new mental illness - Attention Whoareitis.
 

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Bro she has some degree of interest, and that's all we can ask for sometimes. I would give her a quick response like "sounds good, holler if you need bail money" just to not seem butt-hurt about her being busy. Don't continue or pursue a conversation tho.

You'll find out soon enough if she's getting split-roasted or not by Tyrone. So try to not think about it haha. Drop it and go socialize your balls off.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bro she has some degree of interest, and that's all we can ask for sometimes. I would give her a quick response like "sounds good, holler if you need bail money" just to not seem butt-hurt about her being busy. Don't continue or pursue a conversation tho.

You'll find out soon enough if she's getting split-roasted or not by Tyrone. So try to not think about it haha. Drop it and go socialize your balls off.
Thanks buddy!
 
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