"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TERRIBLE performance on a first date

TheNewStyle123

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You could try, but I'd say there's a very low chance of success based on her behavior. It looks to me like she was deliberately making it impossible for you to escalate and now she's giving you the "busy" line. Most likely she's busy meeting other guys on Hinge. So I wouldn't make her a priority at all.

The thing is, if you do get her over again, you need to make a move and put her in a position where she absolutely has to sheeet or get off the pot. That way you'll be 100% certain of what her intentions are, rather than unsure, which is where women want to you to be if they want to manipulate you and use you for attention.

This is why texting and speaking on the phone are such a bad idea - she gets a bunch of attention, whilst you can't actually make a move and find out if she's even worth talking to at all. If she wants to come over, fine, but don't let her suck up a lot of your time talking about it.
Great advice man - thank you!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The ones that do this are the real attention junkies and essentially they have something seriously wrong with them.
I invited one out the other week, I must have gone quiet for a few days, she liked a picture of me, unliked it, then reliked 24 hours later when it had gone quiet, so she stood out as the most recent liker. In a hope i would DM her

Theyre NUTS
 

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I invited one out the other week, I must have gone quiet for a few days, she liked a picture of me, unliked it, then reliked 24 hours later when it had gone quiet, so she stood out as the most recent liker. In a hope i would DM her

Theyre NUTS
Jesus christ. hahaha what lengths won't they go to?
 

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I invited one out the other week, I must have gone quiet for a few days, she liked a picture of me, unliked it, then reliked 24 hours later when it had gone quiet, so she stood out as the most recent liker. In a hope i would DM her

Theyre NUTS
Yep. It's needs to be diagnosed as a new mental illness - Attention Whoareitis.
 

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Bro she has some degree of interest, and that's all we can ask for sometimes. I would give her a quick response like "sounds good, holler if you need bail money" just to not seem butt-hurt about her being busy. Don't continue or pursue a conversation tho.

You'll find out soon enough if she's getting split-roasted or not by Tyrone. So try to not think about it haha. Drop it and go socialize your balls off.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bro she has some degree of interest, and that's all we can ask for sometimes. I would give her a quick response like "sounds good, holler if you need bail money" just to not seem butt-hurt about her being busy. Don't continue or pursue a conversation tho.

You'll find out soon enough if she's getting split-roasted or not by Tyrone. So try to not think about it haha. Drop it and go socialize your balls off.
Thanks buddy!
 
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