"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Tension loop

Max Power

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Hey there

I'm new to all this and have recently been incorporating tension loops with women when they ask me questions about myself.

My favourite is to say, for example when they ask my name, "Guess?" They give an answer and I say, "Oh my God. You're amazing." Then they say, "Did I get it?" and I say, "No."

It's quite fun.

Anywho... was at this party this week and this girl HB6 who works in my industry and is new in town asked me where I worked and without me asking she took a guess. I said, "Guess again." And she refused, got all worked up and said, "No!"

What would you do?

Just give the answer?
Or continue refuse to give the answer?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Themanthatcan

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I do the whole "guess" thing too. But if she doesn't want to guess anymore just say "I don't know if you can handle the truth". Tease her for a while on that, then eventually tell her your an underwear model or something out of the ordinary like that..
 

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Depens on situation. You have to read her body language. If you notice she is unvilling to buy into your frame and answer, you can do 1 of 2 things.

1. You can keep the frame, be a man, be outcome dependent, dont tell her and continue conversation in another direction or go on with your party

2. You can keep the frame, you can tell her and continue conversation in another direction but still be outcome dependant

Now since you are new to this I'd say, don't answer and don't buy into her frame. And you dont even have to continue talking to her.

-Blue Dude
 
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