"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tensing up while being watched...

Heyjose25points

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Hey guys, does this happen to any of u?

When ur sitting down or standing up, and then u see someone is watching u(Hot girl or heck even a guy) or look right at u while ur not looking, do any of u tense up? I Want to reduce it but don't know how? Any suggestions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just realize, that if you look comfortable, and calm. She'll notice, and it's "hotter" than being all jittery.
 

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Skilla_Staz said:
Just realize, that if you look comfortable, and calm. She'll notice, and it's "hotter" than being all jittery.
That bit of advice is gonna put more pressure on him seeing as he is self conscious already...

But Heyjose25points, I know what you mean, I've experienced that in the past and I think the best way to deal with it is to just make eye contact with them, if only briefly. Just look at them, it's normal (if someone keeps staring at you it is normal for you to glance up to see what's going on).
 

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Thanks alot. Yea, its usually in class...where there is a girl I know and she looks at my direction(sometimes its not even at me), i tend to tense up even when i tell my mind to stop....it just does it anyway...but its my responsibility to promote emotional freedom.

Skilla Staz: Well when i expect, I don't tense up...but when it happens out of now where, while im looking at a lecture in class and she looks at my direction, while im not looking...it usually happens. But I'll keep in my mind about looking comfortable and calm. One thing I realized is that if ur body doesn't show what ur thinking, then its hard for someone to read u...as people can't read ur mind, only ur body language. Thanks

Cant think of a user name: That sounds plausible, i'll look when i feel someone is watching me. Thanks.

Thanks guys.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Its a normal human reaction to get all self-conscious when someone is watching you. And the more "important" that person is, the more self-conscious you get (ie. your boss, a supermodel, the Gestapo)

Best thing to do is return eye contact with a smile n wink (but not if its a guy)
 

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Almost forgot, when they look at my direction...i tend to also tense up....i know its human nature but is a little fustrating.
 

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I suggest:

A. Focus your mind on something else.

or

B. Look at them and smile.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If it's just standing up from your chair in a room, or it's your turn to give a speech in front of 50 people, just keep in mind that everyone isn't focused on you and thinking about you nearly as much as you think you are. After all, you're just one of a bunch of people in the room.
 

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Public Speaking is a great class to improve confidence in speaking with people. And whats funny is that u do better from the outside than u believe on the inside. But thank you all for your support. As a result, Im deciding to do the Bootcamp. I sh1t u guys not. Its something i never tried, thought i didn't need, but hey...what's the worse that could happen that I don't get as much success as I want? Atleast i know i tried. It starts today. Whats funny is that it seems to be no different than the plan one of the counselors gave me for getting through social anxiety, except the DJ stuff.
 
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