Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Tenacity Is Opting Out Of V-Day 2017

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It felt good to have these chicks pissed off on Valentine's Day lol.

And yes, I do have an abundance mentality. I'm surely at least a 7 and I have no issue bringing chicks in. So it was fun, I honestly have NEVER did anything like that before (flake on a gang of chicks).
While I don't agree to purposefully flake, I don't judge you brother, as my opining originates by my indoctrination as well. There has to be a course each DJ chooses, and I do believe such course is dynamic, many twists, turns, peaks and valleys until we find a place of wholeness outside of abundance as we become truly abundant once we transcend with the more profound realization that we are already all connected outside of our five senses.

Proceed as you deem fit. Just don't break any laws in the process, and prioritize your psychological and physical health first.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's your limiting principle for personal behavior other than utility and your own amusement?
Yes, I surely love the "ethics" argument. No better way to shame those social deviants into snapping conformity.

But to answer you directly outside of your lasso: Any behavior which violates no law or regulation and not likely to incite a lawsuit (although lawsuits are the nature of the beast in big business) is fair game.
 

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Would double headers be considered "bad form" one thousand years ago under alternate social constructs?
I don't have a problem with one guy taking two girls out for a date at all - or six, or eight, for that matter. I still can't figure out why polygamy is illegal. My only problem is with deception. It all depends on how you are framing the situation. If you are deceiving the girl into thinking it will just be you and her, and then when she arrives thrusting her into a battle over your attention, no, that's not something I would do. Honesty is a thing I value very highly though, it's very high on my list of things I screen for.

Certainly there are many social occasions when three or more mixed gender groups go out and have a good time, it could be ten girls and one guy. Of those ten girls, maybe a few or more might have some desire for you. I've been out with groups such as this on many occasions. But I would not lead a girl into thinking it would just be me and her, and then spring the other girl on her when she arrived and try to pit them against each other for my amusement. That sounds like something a low quality chick would do, and is a game I would not play, from either end. I don't think it's necessary to have a girl throw a drink in your face just so you can feel that you're stretching social conventions and getting out of your comfort zone. YMMV, I suppose.
 

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But I would not lead a girl into thinking it would just be me and her,
The bolded is the fallacy in your position. I don't lead women to any type of understanding. If she has certain expectations, those expectations belong to her. I have no responsibility to read her the rites of passage before the first date. If she were to ask, I would apprise her. Should I also take a minute before the date and say:

"Hey, before we proceed with this engagement, I must forewarn: I may be only looking for sex, and will come at you aggressively and try to take you back to my place within the hour or may leave you at the bar if I'm in that type of mood."

Ridiculous. I owe her no explanation. Neither do you. She sets a date with me to have fun and fun she has. Ironically Zekko, two girls on a date with me will likely have more fun than one girl on a date with you. Perhaps, you may be more misleading than I, as they expect fun. And I say this sincerely :D
 
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"Hey, before we proceed with this engagement, I must forewarn: I may be only looking for sex, and will come at you aggressively and try to take you back to my place within the hour or may leave you at the bar if I'm in that type of mood."
I said I appreciate honesty, I didn't say I wanted to suck all the spontaneity and enjoyment out of life :)
As for your date, and her "expectations", like I said, it really depends on how you frame it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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