Zekko said:
It's simple courtesy. If you set up a meeting with her understanding that there was going to be a party of people there, that's one thing. But you were the one who said to "enjoy the fireworks", so that infers there is some deception going on.
Sorry my friend, “fireworks” and “deception” are not homogenous terms. You paint them this way due to your current paradigms set forth by a lifetime of indoctrination.
I enjoy beautiful women, not a woman. So, I schedule two dates concurrently as such is my desire. If both dates appear, we
all have a great time. By my excluding one of the two girls from a date, and because of my limited time to schedule on different days, I am committing a gross disservice upon one girl by not blessing her with ME? What if this girl truly needed a man like me to bless her with my company, the euphoria of a century? Would I not be committing an abrogation of decency upon her? Zekko, this seems very mean spirited of you.
You were born in the 60s I presume, in an era where one girl and one guy went on one date. You understand that society did not always operate this way. One thousand or so years ago, one man going out with a few women was considered appropriate in many societies. Men also had multiple wives and open mistresses. Accordingly, you opine strictly by today's social indoctrination, further stifling and compromising your own desires in favor of social expectations and constructs.
Why? Are you telling me that if society were keen on two girls with one guy dates, you would not schedule double-headers? Oh yes, you a serial monogamist, I forgot. Nonetheless, if you were not, this thinking makes you a social slave, devoid of bonafide authenticity; a traitor to your true self.
Zekko said:
And since you said this was the quickest way to appreciate and understand your value, I would say that is validation seeking by definition.
As much as “the community” would have you erroneously believe that supreme confidence could be mentally contrived, it cannot. Confidence arises from success, and commensurately, supreme confidence arises from supreme success.
Concurrent double headers engender (1) Extreme confidence; (2) Extreme social acuity having you learn to close two women concomitantly. Now you could use your shaming “validation” rebut, but as reality clearly demonstrates, closing two women concurrently will originate more confidence and social acuity than closing one girl alone. There is no substitute for challenge.
I know, I know, we all live in the castle in the sky where ideologies of extreme confidence are born devoid of actual experience and results. But here in the real world, your experiences shape you. You want to teach a young man how to be a great hunter; teach him to hunt lions, not deer.
Zekko said:
Would you appreciate it if a girl invited you to dinner on what you understood to be some sort of "romantic" encounter, only to find she had brought some other guy there who was also interested in her? Have girls done this sort of thing? Yes. Does that make it right? No. Would SoSuave tell the guy to "next" the chick who did this? Yes. Bad form is bad form.
More social indoctrination? Quite surprised here Zekko. Ten years ago, when I was married to social convictions a/k/a a social slave, I would have agreed with you when you say “bad form.” But who gives you the right to define “bad” or “good” form for me or others? Isn’t "bad form" simply what society deems “bad,” and you are likewise parroting your inculcated beliefs under the guise of nobility to shame me into conformity of your indoctrinated social ideals? Would double headers be considered "bad form" one thousand years ago under alternate social constructs?
As to your question: Ten years ago, when I was a mental slave, I would not have appreciated such an act. Today, I would appreciate such an experience. Guys like Tenacity, who have been indoctrinated with social/biblical constructs, would lose all frustrations in life if they truly embraced this transcendence; specifically, expecting nothing, acting fully on his volition, unfettered by social constructs no matter how heretical his desires may appear to you or others.