"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Temptation

TheNewStyle123

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I think the affinity for novelty and variety never fades. That doesn't mean you have to act on it.

It is good to keep up the skills of good game and flirting. I work with a lot of women, so in a sense that kept my game going even though I've been retired from the game for years. Together with wife for 15 years, married for 12. Have been having a lot of issues since the fall with her though.

I think the degree to which a man has these feelings has more to do with him than the woman he is with. In my case I got married late at 35 so I had a lot of experience with women and pickup artistry. My brother 3 years older than me only dated a couple of women before his wife, so he probably has less of a novelty and variety circuit wired in his brain. His wife would make me miserable although she just recently seems to have found the right medication to make her tolerable be around. Now i'm the one in the family with the difficult wife unfortunately.
I'm sorry to hear that man. Why has she been difficult lately?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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King Lion

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Treat any woman right and she will stick around despite competition - If she really wants you!
 
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