"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Telling women about other women

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Ok, as a matter of respect, I don't tell "friends with benefits" about other women I'm with. They are not my girlfriend but I don't talk about that stuff with women.

It makes them wonder and their imagination goes wild anyway.

What do you say?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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They must have overactive imaginations. Is there some inference we should draw from your remarks?
 
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ok

sorry, I'll rephrase it. The question is do you think telling women nothing about the other women you're with makes them imagine more or that it's better to drop little hints to keep them on edge and interested.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why do you care?

If they're just FB, why would you want them to be more interested?

Are you sleeping with them hoping to have them fall in love with you? If so, this is a piss poor way of doing it.
 
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I think the former but I'd never get myself in this situation.

Its really a stupid idea to talk to women about other women you've dated. There is no point to it and it leaves you open for drama.
 
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