That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
morepoonplease said:So i've got this fvck buddy.... awesome in the sack, we both agree that its good to keep it where its at, however i feel like i want to start dating this chick, she turns me on so hard, i need this type of thing! is there a way to tell her that i want more than just the sex aspect without ruining what we have?
You HAVE this type of thing! :yes:morepoonplease said:So i've got this fvck buddy.... awesome in the sack, we both agree that its good to keep it where its at, however i feel like i want to start dating this chick, she turns me on so hard, i need this type of thing! is there a way to tell her that i want more than just the sex aspect without ruining what we have?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Then you are defeating the purpose of joining this forum if you are asking that question.morepoonplease said:So i've got this fvck buddy.... awesome in the sack, we both agree that its good to keep it where its at, however i feel like i want to start dating this chick, she turns me on so hard, i need this type of thing! is there a way to tell her that i want more than just the sex aspect without ruining what we have?