"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
telling her the truth
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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scrouds
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Show, don't tell.
LinkinParkROX
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Right on, actions speak louder than words.scrouds said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Like I said, things are only a big deal if you make them a big deal.
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If you're being fake and you're good at it, sometimes it will work, but it will never have the same impact on you that coming from a place of genuine confidence and naturalness will have. Once you're coming from this place and you're strong enough to pull it off, you never have to think about stuff like this and it's just like ****ing magic the way women pick up on it. I know that's not a lot of help when you're getting started but it's where you should be headed. In other words, be a stand up guy who isn't afraid of girls. If your gut tells you to say she's cute, then do that, if your gut tells you to grab her and kiss her, then do that. Over time you will sort it out. There is this idea that the goal is to get every girl, I used to think in those terms too. Now I think differently. The truth is you can sample some of every kind of woman on the planet and do this with relative ease, but you don't need to care what every individual woman likes. If some lady doesn't like me or what I've done for some reason, she can go **** herself, and I don't say that bitterly but genuinely, I just don't care because I am into women I get along with not the few I don't
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
For the record, I experienced the second scenario Cinamon listed above. It was a disaster. But truth be told it is very difficult to judge which kind of girl she is.Cinamon said:
You might get that Anti Chic Aura for a while but after that you will be fine
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Bible_Belt
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Those are two questions. Surely you don't like her just because she's cute, right? If she really is stunningly cute, it is ok to acknowledge it in an offhand way. That is not the same as liking her, or telling her that you do. Don't do that. Call her "cuteness" or "blondie" or something that implies she is attractive - and then don't hit on her. That's how to get her thinking about you. Just tease her a little bit and don't be creepy. You'll see her again.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
jophil28
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This is one of my favorites--cool dude said:
You say to her with a smirk, " I have a good friend who would probably find you moderately attractive."
She says all wide-eyed and laughing ," What? Only moderately !"
You, " Yeh, he is kinda picky. Just like me."
I am not going to totally ignore her but just be like whatever.Act like how she acts,friendly but not interested(I can see why with my dumb ass).