Hey, i've got a little problem which i could use some of your guys' advice on. So i've had a girlfriend for about a month now and all of a sudden a good friend of mine krissy is blatenly coming on to me. She instant messages me everyday and talks about how she loves seeing me in school and all kinds of flattering stuff. She also tells me that she likes me and hates how i have a girlfriend now. As sweet as she is she really isn't very good looking to put it lightly and i wouldn't want to go out with her. (plus she's clingy and kinda annoying). Heres the problem... she is suicidal and has this severe fainting problem so her life is pretty rough and THE LAST thing i want to do is to hurt her. How should i handle talking with her online and in school? everytime i talk to her she likes me more and more. and if me and my girlfriend break up how should i tell krissy that im not interested? (or should i let her know while im still with my girlfriend?) Thanks!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Telling her no
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Get the idea that you could be responsible of her committing suicide in any way out of your head RIGHT NOW. Seriously.
If you really need to talk to her do so in person rather than online so you can have more control of what may happen, just in case, but that's it.
If you really need to talk to her do so in person rather than online so you can have more control of what may happen, just in case, but that's it.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Tell her you got a girlfriend but, you will keep her in mind. Just use her for money and sh!t. Maybe your not that cold hearted but, hey I'd do it. Why not have some girl who wants to be with you do sh!t for you.
She knows i have a girlfriend and i make it very clear that im happy with the girl im with. doesn't stop her. And i know she wouldn't kill herself over it nor would i be at fault if she did, its just clear that she has had a lot of rough patches and i need to let her down in the fragilist way possible. and IAFYV i dont think i have the heart to do that hahaha. and if i tell her ill keep her in mind she will not stop hardcore flirting with me which is pretty annoying.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
they dont know eachother, and ya i suppose i should just straight up tell her to stop cuz i have a girlfriend. but THE SECOND i break up with my girlfirend i know she will be all over me. i guess if that happens i should just give her the "sorry, your just not my type".