Hey, i've got a little problem which i could use some of your guys' advice on. So i've had a girlfriend for about a month now and all of a sudden a good friend of mine krissy is blatenly coming on to me. She instant messages me everyday and talks about how she loves seeing me in school and all kinds of flattering stuff. She also tells me that she likes me and hates how i have a girlfriend now. As sweet as she is she really isn't very good looking to put it lightly and i wouldn't want to go out with her. (plus she's clingy and kinda annoying). Heres the problem... she is suicidal and has this severe fainting problem so her life is pretty rough and THE LAST thing i want to do is to hurt her. How should i handle talking with her online and in school? everytime i talk to her she likes me more and more. and if me and my girlfriend break up how should i tell krissy that im not interested? (or should i let her know while im still with my girlfriend?) Thanks!
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Telling her no
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Get the idea that you could be responsible of her committing suicide in any way out of your head RIGHT NOW. Seriously.
If you really need to talk to her do so in person rather than online so you can have more control of what may happen, just in case, but that's it.
If you really need to talk to her do so in person rather than online so you can have more control of what may happen, just in case, but that's it.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Tell her you got a girlfriend but, you will keep her in mind. Just use her for money and sh!t. Maybe your not that cold hearted but, hey I'd do it. Why not have some girl who wants to be with you do sh!t for you.
She knows i have a girlfriend and i make it very clear that im happy with the girl im with. doesn't stop her. And i know she wouldn't kill herself over it nor would i be at fault if she did, its just clear that she has had a lot of rough patches and i need to let her down in the fragilist way possible. and IAFYV i dont think i have the heart to do that hahaha. and if i tell her ill keep her in mind she will not stop hardcore flirting with me which is pretty annoying.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
they dont know eachother, and ya i suppose i should just straight up tell her to stop cuz i have a girlfriend. but THE SECOND i break up with my girlfirend i know she will be all over me. i guess if that happens i should just give her the "sorry, your just not my type".