Telling a girl you'll no longer see her due to her gaining weight...

[Knicknack]

Would it ruin a girl's life if you told her you no longer want to date her due to her body not looking as good as it once did?

 

[bigforearms]

If she's an adult, possibly. If she's under 20, definitely. Teenage and college girls are very prone to anorexia nervosa, and getting dumped from a LTR because of weight gain is a good way of triggering it.

Play it safe, and don't be a ****: just tell her you're tired of the relationship or aren't attracted to her anymore. Don't be specific.

 

[Iceberg]

What do you have to gain by telling her that she's fat? If you don't like her, dump her and be done with it.

You wouldn't want her telling you about your small penis would you?

 

[Ar7]

Agreed with the above two...

Dont be a fu@k man, make up some other BS man..

 

[Knicknack]

i'm not in that current situation. i am just trying to mentally prepare for everything. i always wondered about that. i guess it's best to just lie like girl's always do.

i hate when they ask their friends if they look fat and their friends always tell them "no." i'd be brutally honest if someone asked me that.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Knicknack
Would it ruin a girl's life if you told her you no longer want to date her due to her body not looking as good as it once did?

Why say anything other than you do not feel chemistry with her any longer and leave it at that?

 

[BobbDobbs]

Whenever you see her, whistle that polka tune "She's too fat for me."

 

[Bonhomme]

(chuckling @ BobbDobbs' suggestion)

 

[Unregistered]

I don't want her
you can have her
she's too fat for meeee!

 

[chlywly]

Based on who you want to be, the kind of person you are, make your descision.

I personaly knowing that all women although sometimes seeming otherwise due to their insecurities are all nothing but gentle female flowers deep inside, would not want to say something like this because I know how self concious they are, it would TEAR them up inside, there is nothing at all constructive about being a inconsiderate Jack ass.

It's all about love, and if you don't have sparks or aren't interested you say so, but no reason to make them feel like ****, possibly say you're just not interested anymore, if she can really take it and really wants to know why, tell her you're unnatracted due to her weight.

Depends how and when you put things.



Women may seem crazy sometimes, but really they are little butterflys all waiting to break down.... They pretend to be so strong and angry. Why do they use their sexuality as their power over men, why do they all seem like sneaky coniving *****es?

Because my friends, Men are stronger willed, have stronger logic and have stronger bodies, so to make up for it WOMEN from the beginning are using their sexual/emotional bodies as a means of settling the score of that "POWER STRUGGLE"....

You have to realise, it's only a game they are playing, a power struggle and insecuritiy game, there really is NO POWER struggle, it's truly only about equality love and every individual creates their own world.

If you realise this and are at peace with yourself you will LEARN to play this game, in a constructive way, things will go the way you want them to, because you see beyond the sharades.

BUT if you get brainwashed by the game and believe it to be reality, if you TOO start trying to balance out this so-called power struggle then my friends you only fool yourself and will plunge yourself into a deeper darker mess.

For all of these DJ tactics are fine and dandy if you want to get laid, but for any other substance, for a relationship for anything with meaning that each of you will want eventually, you will be LOST.

 

[dionysius_d]

hurt rather than kill.

fat?

if she's put on weight now, she was probably never a Kylie Minogue to begin with.. its part of life for some people.

iceberg is right.

You want leave her, not injure her for no reason.

 

[Don Rageta]

"He's a bad-breaker-uper"

 

[MDgood]

Originally posted by BobbDobbs
Whenever you see her, whistle that polka tune "She's too fat for me."

How about...

"Fat Bottom Girl" by Queen?

"Baby Got Back" by Sir Mixalot might work, too.

I saw my ex-girlfriend last night, and she has the opposite problem. She's lost like 15 pounds, down to 115... I told her she needed to GAIN weight.

 

[Titus]

Well, well, well, aren't we a bunch of fyking hypocrates!
When you dump a girl for a specific reason which you don't want to tell her, or you even lie to her, that's fycking fine, but when a girl does this, or rejects you because of "still getting over her ex, not being ready yet, wanting to take it slow..." or any other kind of bullshyt like that, which translates, "you don't make me wet, so buzz off," and both of you know it, then the goddamn shyt hits the fan and burns the whole fyking house down to the ground!
Double standards all the way, yesireee!

 

[Knicknack]

Originally posted by Titus
Well, well, well, aren't we a bunch of fyking hypocrates!
When you dump a girl for a specific reason which you don't want to tell her, or you even lie to her, that's fycking fine, but when a girl does this, or rejects you because of "still getting over her ex, not being ready yet, wanting to take it slow..." or any other kind of bullshyt like that, which translates, "you don't make me wet, so buzz off," and both of you know it, then the goddamn shyt hits the fan and burns the whole fyking house down to the ground!
Double standards all the way, yesireee!

my point exactly

 

[chlywly]

So because your woman has lied to you or treated you like ****, its okay for you to do the same? people aren't being hypocrits here people are being "MEN"... and you little boy need to grow up.

If someone treats you with disrespect then its your responsibility to learn from their behaviour knowing you didn't feel very well having it done to you and go out of your WAY to make sure you don't do it to others..... Becuase if you do, that makes you lower than the original.

So many women are confused, just as many men, but people have to mature, grow and become wise, learn to relax and LOVE. not run away or be affraid or try to hurt others to feel more secure about themselves, its not a power struggle, it's a childs-game.... Time to grow up.

 

[dionysius_d]

kosher.

Originally posted by Titus
Well, well, well, aren't we a bunch of fyking hypocrates!
When you dump a girl for a specific reason which you don't want to tell her, or you even lie to her, that's fycking fine, but when a girl does this, or rejects you because of "still getting over her ex, not being ready yet, wanting to take it slow..." or any other kind of bullshyt like that, which translates, "you don't make me wet, so buzz off," and both of you know it, then the goddamn shyt hits the fan and burns the whole fyking house down to the ground!
Double standards all the way, yesireee!

I can understand your point.. really. And you are into honesty and justice, over mercy / compassion.

However, telling a young girl you want to dump her ass because she's fat and no longer attractive is just not kosher!

It also begs the question to such a person: "why the fvck did you enter in the first place???"

 

[DJ Jeff]

if you really like her, or love her for that matter...why not try and help her lose the weight? If you wokrout, get her to workout with you, or join a gym together or something.

Just bring it up....tell her stragiht out that you've noticed the weight gain and your not as attracted to her as you once were. now that you said that, ask her what her thoughts are, and how you can help.

And of course if she dosn't make any effort what so ever to lose it, then next her.

 

[chlywly]

Yeah no ****, being rude and being a jack ass has nothing to do with honesty and justice, you can tell her she may look into getting into shape maybe help her work out....

if you're not interested in her or attracted to her you can say you just aren't right for eachother, some things dont need to be said, but you don't have to be a jerk either.