"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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telling a girl - i like another girl vs i'm not attracted to you

chance

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this girl on my back always calling me and texting me is annoying. shes nice and all but im not attracted to her. i gotta contact her soon though cause i havent spoken to her in a couple days after her calls n texts.

should i tell her i'm interested in another girl (cause i really am - and that girl likes me) or that i'm not attracted to her?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Iceberg

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Why do you have to tell her either? You can ignore her calls.

Is this girl calling you to ask you out? Or it it just small talk? Leave her alone and she'll fade away.
 

dudewut

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Iceberg said:
Why do you have to tell her either? You can ignore her calls.

Is this girl calling you to ask you out? Or it it just small talk? Leave her alone and she'll fade away.
Isnt that kind of....socially unacceptable to not return calls? or a real jerk move, which in theory should make her MORE in love with him

just tell them they are not woman enough for you, the magic in this is she can and will interpret it the way she wants to which means nobody gets hurt and everyone wins
 

chance

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oh sorry, forgot to mention we have spent a few nights together. had s3x a few times but it bored me fast. my mind is with another girl right now. she's a nice girl though so i dont know if ignoring her would be alright. not even sure if i should keep her as a friend cause she does a lot for me like driving me around or paying for things (even if i offer!) apart from that im just not attracted to her anymore.
 
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