"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

tell girl who likes me im with another girl but gonna dump her?

chance

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 9, 2004
Messages
252
Reaction score
2
so i recently been talking to a girl who really likes me but im seeing someone who i don't like as much. i am more attracted to the other girl. should i tell her im with someone else but thinking of dumping them? i mean, don't girls like to compete? usually when girls know a guy is with someone else they chase harder. or should i not say anything?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Iceberg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2002
Messages
3,110
Reaction score
136
Age
45
Location
Manhattan, NY
Don't create games just for the sake of playing games.

If she's already digging you, just make a move for her. Keep both girls for a bit. Or if your current girl is becoming a burden, just outright dump her.

But really, don't just start throwing sh*t at the new chick just for the hell of it. That's what girls do.
 

loveshogun

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 19, 2009
Messages
719
Reaction score
35
Iceberg said:
But really, don't just start throwing sh*t at the new chick just for the hell of it. That's what girls do.
Agreed, but wish to make the following distinction:

Girls and boys play games.

Men and women don't have time for that bullsh*t.

Get women. Not girls.
 

Ease

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 23, 2009
Messages
1,320
Reaction score
51
loveshogun said:
Agreed, but wish to make the following distinction:

Girls and boys play games.

Men and women don't have time for that bullsh*t.

Get women. Not girls.
That's awkward, you just said women dont play games.

Since when has that been true
 

Mantis Toboggan

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 27, 2010
Messages
859
Reaction score
58
Ease said:
That's awkward, you just said women dont play games.

Since when has that been true
He's distinguishing between the quality of two different types of females.

Girls/Boys = game players

Women/Men = normal

Do women play games? Of course. Men do too. But for the purpose of this conversation, he's trying to draw a distinction.

...just trying to clear it up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Top