Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Tell a buddy I saw the signs???

LowPlainsDrifter

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Sorry, I'm horrible - A really good friend of mine is getting divorced after only a year of marriage, and I knew it wouldn't work out, well before he proposed. Aside from feeling sympathetic toward his plight, my next biggest feeling was "I knew it would happen - I told you so."
I never felt it was my place to say, "don't do it." The closest I came was when he asked me if he should propose, I said, "if it doesn't feel right, don't get married just so you can preserve the four years you spent with her up to that point."
I saw a lot of signs that it was going to be rocky or about to crash and burn.
We're pretty open with each other, but I'm not sure I should detail what I saw that tipped me off. I want to do this in the spirit of helping him avoid a future mistake, not gloating over how right I was.
It should be noted that he talks and acts like his usual self - he seems more relieved that it's over than sad or anything. Financially, it doesn't seem like he's gonna get raked over too badly.
Anyone here have advice?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Skel

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So you want to tell your friend "I told you so" for what reason exactly? This sounds very childish to me. Do what you want but dont come back to me when it goes bad because Ill just say " I told you so"
 

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just STFU

dont say any i told you so, what is the point of that , to show you are better than him and shove his face in it

if he is a mate as you say then stick by him , and wing for some new chicks :)
 

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What kinds of signs did you see? Can you elaborate here so we can all learn?

Also don't tell your buddy unless he asks for it. Because if he doesn't ask, even if you say something he might be in denial and your words will fly right by him. But if he does ask, you can ceratinly let him know so he doesn't repeat his mistakes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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