I met this girl last night, she was really feeling me but I slipped up by telling her I would call her tommorrow night. I've made the decision that I am going to call her next week but I don't want to seem like a lier sense I gave a specific day. So, what should I say to this chic? When I call her, should I just wait till she brings it up & then respond w/ a "I was busy." or what do you guys thinking?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Telephone Blunder?
- Thread starter R2Change
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Igetit!
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I say to go ahead and call her when you said you would.R2Change said:
It's just a girl dude. It's not like you're defusing a bomb and HAVE TO get this right.
Why are you so worried about calling her tomorrow? You think you may come off as needy or something?
Just call her,talk for a bit,try to say something exciting to stir up her emotions,set up a date with her,then end the call.
It's just that simple.
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