"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Teaching English Abroad

thunder_god

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Has anyone ever done this before? I'm really considering this for 1-2 years to pay off my student debt and also to network and develop some skills abroad that I can use to polish up my resume and perhaps try to open up some sort of import/export business on the side or something. I'm really leaning towards China, mainly Shanghai. I'm wondering how hiring process went? They ask for a casual photo. What type of photo would they be looking for strategically to be hired? Should I be dressed business professional/casual or just have some pic of me on vacation chilling? Also I hear about of scam recruitment agencies. I'm also a asian Canadian. I hear they are racist as fcuk down there and would only hire mainly european looking guys. What are my chances of getting a teaching job there?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I've done a lot of business in China over the years - Beijing, Nanjing, Shanghai, Suchow.

Most Chinese are not racist. They may feel bad for you that you weren't born there. But that's as far as it ever went for me.

You sure you're not thinking of Japan?

Dress to impress. In any of China's business cities, that can go a long way.
 

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Tictac said:
I've done a lot of business in China over the years - Beijing, Nanjing, Shanghai, Suchow.

Most Chinese are not racist. They may feel bad for you that you weren't born there. But that's as far as it ever went for me.

You sure you're not thinking of Japan?

Dress to impress. In any of China's business cities, that can go a long way.
Nope, China.

http://www.berkeley.edu/news/students/2004/china/china6.shtml
http://www.thebeijinger.com/forum/2011/08/19/australian-born-chinese-do-i-even-have-chance
http://taiwanbornamerican.blogspot.ca/2010/11/its-not-easy-being-yellow-teaching.html

Those are from a few years ago though, not sure how much things have changed though. I guess I will get someone to take a picture of me in a suit with a tie smiling.
 

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Gonna be difficult to get a job in Asia as a black guy, just a heads up. There isn't any way around this.

Whites get preference over everyone else in Asia, if that pisses you off, don't apply.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LiveFreeX said:
Gonna be difficult to get a job in Asia as a black guy, just a heads up. There isn't any way around this.

Whites get preference over everyone else in Asia, if that pisses you off, don't apply.
Good thing I'm not a black guy then.
 

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My sister's ex husband does this. He has taught English in Hong Kong, Dubai, Malaysia, Afghanistan, and last I knew it was in freaking Iraq. I last saw him about a year ago and had a long talk about his work. He lives and works on the same campus and when he has to leave they give him armed guards. He is paid extremely well and says he doesn't work all that hard, most of the pay he gets is because of where he is located, not what he doing. Not the cup of tea for me but he says he loves it so much that at 72 he has no plans to retire anytime soon.
 
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how do you teach English if you don't know the local language fluently? Are you claiming that this guy knows 5 other languages well enough to teach English in those languages?
 

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Some of those programs dont require the instructor to know the local language.... they just want an english speaker for the students to **ahem** "conversate" with... its the best way to learn...
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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