I have never used IM or talked to people online really. I set up a myspace page strictly for keeping contact with all my old friends from school. This hot chick contacts me and wants to be added as a friend. Then she sends me a message and wants to chat sometime on IM. She's hot so it's worth a go. The thing is I have no idea what to talk about on IM. Anyone have any tips, suggestions, etc. or can you point me to some posts that go into it? Thanks
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Talking to Women on IM
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Docs
Banned
Just talk about anything.....it's just a random MySpace girl...
The best part about online chat, is it allows you to think. No need to be spontaneous. You can take 2 minutes to think of the perfect ****y funny line... perfect opener etc... its easy ****. Don't get caught up in it though, online talk does not replace real life talk lol.
I like to say something about how I am at work or doing something else while I am talking. That will explain why it takes you so long to respond, when you are actually sitting there thinking of what to say. Of course if you meet in person you cannot sit there for two minutes, so don't rely on that.
Also, from my experience, it is best not to try and CF or negs online. Wait until you meet in person for that. CF comes naturally to me, but it can be taken as an insult online. Be sure to use smileys if you do.
Also, from my experience, it is best not to try and CF or negs online. Wait until you meet in person for that. CF comes naturally to me, but it can be taken as an insult online. Be sure to use smileys if you do.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
I love freakin' IMs. I'm able to use my sense of humor very very easily.. Plus you get that extra little time to think when you're on the IM. Just be fun, I tend to use smilies humorously. I tend to use the "...." humourously too. You can also use stuff to indicate actions *pretending I didn't hear that.
Karen1478: SoOo what are you doing tonight.
Dj_in_Making: The usual, my lion taming job.
Dj_in_Making: (before she can respond) sigh... I was just kidding you dork I'm not a lion tamer. I bet you believed me
Karen1478:duh, I know. I was gonna call you a liar.
Dj_in_Making: atleast not anymore
Karen1478: lol, you're funny.
Dj_in_Making: I know.
Dj_in_Making: (before she can respond) I mean thanks
Karen1478: lol, mr arrogant
Just givin' you an idea of how I usually do it, then I can start flirting w/ her a little later on and inserting the *winking smiley
Karen1478: SoOo what are you doing tonight.
Dj_in_Making: The usual, my lion taming job.
Dj_in_Making: (before she can respond) sigh... I was just kidding you dork I'm not a lion tamer. I bet you believed me
Karen1478:duh, I know. I was gonna call you a liar.
Dj_in_Making: atleast not anymore
Karen1478: lol, you're funny.
Dj_in_Making: I know.
Dj_in_Making: (before she can respond) I mean thanks
Karen1478: lol, mr arrogant
Just givin' you an idea of how I usually do it, then I can start flirting w/ her a little later on and inserting the *winking smiley
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
If you know how to have a conversation you know how to instant message.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
I hope you're joking.
Communication is communication.
AIM and Myspace make communicating easier.
Communication is communication.
AIM and Myspace make communicating easier.
Nah actually i'm not, that's the thiings I did when I was an AFC... sitting on the computer sending notes and crap to random girls, its pathetic to me now, but also you're not me so if that's what you gotta do... more power to you, but IMO its pathetic for someone who is a self-proclaimed DJ....
I wonder why all the myspace and online type of threads are so popular, because most people here are KBJ and sit around doing this with there spare time, i don't mean to sound mean but i feel sad for ya'll
-Cod3r
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
We all know who is the sad one here.
sparky0000
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dude, that was me
i was bored and decided to play a bit with photoshop. must have worked."She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.