I have never used IM or talked to people online really. I set up a myspace page strictly for keeping contact with all my old friends from school. This hot chick contacts me and wants to be added as a friend. Then she sends me a message and wants to chat sometime on IM. She's hot so it's worth a go. The thing is I have no idea what to talk about on IM. Anyone have any tips, suggestions, etc. or can you point me to some posts that go into it? Thanks
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Talking to Women on IM
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Docs
Banned
Just talk about anything.....it's just a random MySpace girl...
The best part about online chat, is it allows you to think. No need to be spontaneous. You can take 2 minutes to think of the perfect ****y funny line... perfect opener etc... its easy ****. Don't get caught up in it though, online talk does not replace real life talk lol.
I like to say something about how I am at work or doing something else while I am talking. That will explain why it takes you so long to respond, when you are actually sitting there thinking of what to say. Of course if you meet in person you cannot sit there for two minutes, so don't rely on that.
Also, from my experience, it is best not to try and CF or negs online. Wait until you meet in person for that. CF comes naturally to me, but it can be taken as an insult online. Be sure to use smileys if you do.
Also, from my experience, it is best not to try and CF or negs online. Wait until you meet in person for that. CF comes naturally to me, but it can be taken as an insult online. Be sure to use smileys if you do.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
I love freakin' IMs. I'm able to use my sense of humor very very easily.. Plus you get that extra little time to think when you're on the IM. Just be fun, I tend to use smilies humorously. I tend to use the "...." humourously too. You can also use stuff to indicate actions *pretending I didn't hear that.
Karen1478: SoOo what are you doing tonight.
Dj_in_Making: The usual, my lion taming job.
Dj_in_Making: (before she can respond) sigh... I was just kidding you dork I'm not a lion tamer. I bet you believed me
Karen1478:duh, I know. I was gonna call you a liar.
Dj_in_Making: atleast not anymore
Karen1478: lol, you're funny.
Dj_in_Making: I know.
Dj_in_Making: (before she can respond) I mean thanks
Karen1478: lol, mr arrogant
Just givin' you an idea of how I usually do it, then I can start flirting w/ her a little later on and inserting the *winking smiley
Karen1478: SoOo what are you doing tonight.
Dj_in_Making: The usual, my lion taming job.
Dj_in_Making: (before she can respond) sigh... I was just kidding you dork I'm not a lion tamer. I bet you believed me
Karen1478:duh, I know. I was gonna call you a liar.
Dj_in_Making: atleast not anymore
Karen1478: lol, you're funny.
Dj_in_Making: I know.
Dj_in_Making: (before she can respond) I mean thanks
Karen1478: lol, mr arrogant
Just givin' you an idea of how I usually do it, then I can start flirting w/ her a little later on and inserting the *winking smiley
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
If you know how to have a conversation you know how to instant message.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
I hope you're joking.
Communication is communication.
AIM and Myspace make communicating easier.
Communication is communication.
AIM and Myspace make communicating easier.
Nah actually i'm not, that's the thiings I did when I was an AFC... sitting on the computer sending notes and crap to random girls, its pathetic to me now, but also you're not me so if that's what you gotta do... more power to you, but IMO its pathetic for someone who is a self-proclaimed DJ....
I wonder why all the myspace and online type of threads are so popular, because most people here are KBJ and sit around doing this with there spare time, i don't mean to sound mean but i feel sad for ya'll
-Cod3r
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Jack McCrack
Senior Don Juan
We all know who is the sad one here.
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dude, that was me
i was bored and decided to play a bit with photoshop. must have worked."The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.