"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Talking to very old friend, need some advice

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Hi,

Ok I know the title sounds very weird but the thing is that I stopped talking to this gorgeous girl like 3 years ago ever since we went to different schools, we used to be friends but well she went to some school and I went to a complete different one, changed mail over the years and totally lost contact of her.
However a friend of mine still talks to her, thru Hi5 and I just noticed that so I really wanna get back in touch with her so my friend told me that he could like arrange a "meeting" just like going out to eat or something (my friend, another girl, this girl and me) but should I message her first over Hi5 and be like: "hey wassup, remember me, bla bla bla bla" or just like "hey,...remember me....." on that very same day?

I know this is hard to understand, was even harder to try to describe lol, but I hope you get the picture.
So what should I do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think you should just have your friend "arrange" a meeting. Its a good way to reestablish contact and you can go from there.
 
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Actually, I would tell your friend to let her know that you'll be there and then gauge her reaction/interest to see if she is excited about the encounter. If she doesn't show up then you know her interest is not there.
 
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tell your friend to not say anything, suprise her. if you are old friends, then she would be happy to see you. Telling her ahead of time, she may just cancel the whole thing. you have to give yourself a chance!!! anything can happen
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Thx for the replies guys

But I was thinking, what if I just like get back in touch with her thru like msn, and then pop out in that encounter. Because even if we are old friends I think just "appearing" would be kinda strange, don't you think?
 
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Why? Is she thinking about getting in touch with you? Why not just show up? Why are YOU obligated? She may not even show up!
 
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