I love and hate BBM too. The "D" and "R" can be killers. Sorry to steal your topic, but I have a weird BBM relationship story too:
Three months ago this girl approached me on the dance floor at a bar that I rarely visit. I can't remember what she said at first (it was loud and I had beer-muffs on). We exchanged business cards (like adults, except that I slipped it into the back pocket of her very tight jeans with a brief gentle touch). She smiled and was taken aback by that approach but seemed to like it. I'm a bit hazy on what we talked about or how it got to that, but it apparently went over well.
The lights came on about 10 minutes later and we all spilled out onto the street. We rendezvoused outside when she was standing there with four of her guy friends. I introduced myself to all of them with a firm handshake and eye contact. Somehow she went home with me and slept over. No penetration; she even left her jeans on. I drove her to her friend's place the next morning.
About a day or two later she texted me. We linked up on BBM and facebook and chatted by BBM and gchat a bit. We hung out a few times with other mutual friends, but didn't sleep together the second time. She invited me to come visit her city (1.5 hrs away) for dinner. I showed up with no gift/flower/wine; I know, rookie move but maybe it's ok in hindsight. After dinner we went back to her place for wine and 420 (both at her suggestion). Slept over, digital penetration on her.
She visits me the next time (sleep over, no sex, brown-out) and forgets her phone charger. I mail it to her, but include a note: "you know this defeats the purpose of a leave-behind, right?" She BBMs me to say how cute it was, and says we can hang out again minus leave-behinds.
Next time, back in her town, I bring 3 flowers + small bottle of wine. After dinner, she offers to split the check and explains she doesn't expect the guy to pay all the time, but I said she could pay for the next one -- with a wink/smile. Back at her place, she talks about what we can do together during the forthcoming winter. Yada yada yada, I sleep over again, mostly kissing/me massaging her/digital pen.
The ISSUE: I haven't been able to get her to talk with me on the phone, and I've done most of the initial chatting. Only BBM and gchat. I asked her (via BBM) if she knew that her blackberry can make calls. She laughed and said she was going to think about it. Still no phone chats. What is this all about?
In person, the last time we hungout, I mentioned something about it. She said "I dunno, you live kinda far, this might not work out" and then smiled/laughed (we don't live that far apart) and we made out (for the rest of the night).
Side ISSUE: the self restraint against BBM'ing, gchatting, or calling her is INCREDIBLY challenging. I'm going to try to give it a couple days, including a weekend. How do you guys handle the pressure? I'm cursed with being feverously jealous and "emotionally needy." I don't want to screw this one up (she's smoking hot and very nice), so I'm reading the $hit out of this site.
Is this the age we live in? Does everyone really only want to talk when we're apart via electronics?
PPS: she hasn't touched my junk with her hands/mouth yet. should i keep taking this as a good sign that she's not a slut? previous BFs for her were 2, 2, and 5 yrs each and she lived with the last two respectively.
