jglide123
Don Juan
Ever been out in public somewhere (bookstore, mall, bar, etc.), spotted an attractive woman, approached/ opened successfully, and then minutes later her male friend/ boyfriend shows up?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Talking to a Woman When Her Boyfriend Appears....
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
corrector
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But yourself on the bf's shoes (if you had a relationship before or when you had a relationship on your AFC/beta days, etc....). He's going to feel jealous or threatened if his girl is flirting and enjoying herself with another guy especially if he's insecure about her or has jealousy issues. Maybe she enjoyed the interaction too much that it felt like emotional infidelity to the sensitive bf. You don't know how much money or time he invested on her to see it all evaporate as she falls in love with a stranger in the middle of nowhere...so in a state of panic he came towards both of you.
If this happens to me then I chum up with the bf and talk with him too. Maybe he's a loner and needs to talk anyway. If you keep the mind-set that you are talking to people and are having a great time socializing then you wouldn't care who comes up. The fact you are out there talking to people is great since you just never know where it may go and not everyone obviously will have a bf.
As long as she enjoyed the interaction to the point a bf felt threatened by it then it's a successful flirt and should be a stroke to the ego you riled someone up, lol! Was she a hb 7+? Then double stroke to the ego!
If this happens to me then I chum up with the bf and talk with him too. Maybe he's a loner and needs to talk anyway. If you keep the mind-set that you are talking to people and are having a great time socializing then you wouldn't care who comes up. The fact you are out there talking to people is great since you just never know where it may go and not everyone obviously will have a bf.
As long as she enjoyed the interaction to the point a bf felt threatened by it then it's a successful flirt and should be a stroke to the ego you riled someone up, lol! Was she a hb 7+? Then double stroke to the ego!
jglide123
Don Juan
That's a good point Corrector; having the proper mind-set is key. I totally get the reason why a boyfriend with interrupt. I guess I just get frustrated when I'm having a great interaction with a woman, and someone comes along and interferes/blocks.
insomniac9
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i've had a similar situation happen, i'll make a detailed post about in my gym girls thread.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
This is why you need that friendly "buffer" before you lay your number grab. If the BF shows up, you continue, unphased, even talk to him to for a minute, say thank you, or just bye, and you split. If she were single you number grab. If not, you're just a curious, friendly dude strikin up a clean convo.